An open letter to the United Nations and an appeal on behalf of Ukraine.

sorry is not enough by Titus vargis



To,

The United Nations and all countries,

With due respect I want to share some- thing very urgent. As you might know what’s happening in Ukraine.

So you say you are awesome and a peacemaker.



But what you have done speaks louder than your claims.

Look,Ukraine is destroyed and it will soon happen to exist no more.

Look,how you kept on looking at the war and amused yourself.



You thought that it’s not a big deal. You are useless,to speak frankly.

Hey,you could have saved thousands of precious cities and people including children.

Of course you are safe.

You are invincible as you often say.



But I think that’s much exaggeration!!

Hey, you are a coward hiding behind your peace talks and all gimmicks.

When will you awake?

How can we as a hu- man being ignore the war and its impact?

Ukraine is facing the giant and it’s too long




Ukraine is facing the giant and it’s too long now.

Mankind is under attack.

What could the United States and other nations do to stop this war?



At Least for the sake of those pre- cious children and future generations something must be done.

Hey,think like a good human being.

Think not how you can be safe.

Let the peace prevail.



Let the peace prevail. Russia is wicked and it is getting dirtier as time goes by.



Let’s hope for the best,

A citizen of the free

No sorry is enough by Titus Vargis

My experiments with depression and my conclusions: People have stupid reaction towards depression.


What’s more disturb- ing than depression is people’s attitude towards it.

My experiments by Titus Vargis

Over the years I had been through many ups and downs.

One of the most horrific experience was my struggle with depression.

The thing that hurt me most was people’s utter stupid attitude towards me.



It was as if my life was in jeopardy.

My story has a strong message for those in our society.




Unless we treat this stupid- ity patients with mental illness and issues will not recover fast.

My own first hand experience has taught me what books could never teach me about depression.




Let me briefly share few of the utter stupid attitude of people towards me while I was in depression,

1. That I am abnormal.

2. That I am faking it.

3. I am Lazy.

4. That I am stupid.

5. That I am beyond hope.

6. That I am not worthy of respect.

7. That I am the only per- son on earth to behave like this.


8. That by willpower & efforts I can overcome it.

9. That this is not a big deal. I am the cause of this.

10. That this is not a sickness that needs treatment but a state of mind.

My story by Titus Vargis.

How do you come out of that wrecked life of darkness?
Let me tell you the secret: just once is enough to begin with.

Coming out is really hard by Titus Vargis



Many times I felt as if I just can’t break the mess I am in.

I was vulnerable. I went through depression for so long.

That was real darkness. Even that word ‘darkness’ is still not enough.

What can one do if he or she is bound? May be by depression, fear or any relationship issues that are there for so long.

I used to read many books on how to get rid of my depression.

There were several factors that brought me out of that cage.

One of them is doctors and another is insights from people who went through depression.

One thing I learnt was in order to break free one needs to take the risk.

One needs to take that first step that seems so impossible.

Just take that step. Focus not on the complete journey of recovery. When we focus on just one thing it gets easy.

Focus on that first step you need to take in order to come out of your darkness.

Often we calculate about the whole journey and it looks so huge that we never take any action.

How did I come out of my depression? It took me one step at a time. The whole journey was thousands of those small steps.

When you take one step towards your recovery journey you feel you can take that next step and then the next step.

Many times we don’t take the journey of recovery because the journey itself feels overwhelming.

You can do it.
You can make it.
No matter how long you were in your darkness.
Still you can break that evil pattern.

It takes one step at a time.

Stop feeling vulnerable.

Unless you move towards that recovery road you will keep crying.

Do it.
Just do it.
I believe you.
You are awesome!

© Titus Vargis
https://loveandmarriagecoach.com

A letter to the broken soul.

Why are you cast down?

Why are you cast down? Titus Vargis

Hey,
How are you?
This is just a quick reminder. Life is beautiful my dear Soul.
You are an overcomer!!
I know you will overcome this problem too.
Never doubt yourself. You have done it in the past several times.
Do you know, you are my role model? Yes.
It’s true you get discouraged sometimes,tell me who does not?
We are winners.
Tell me more about your victories,I know you have many of them.
Beneath the surface,you are a superhero.
Trust me,I love you.
You are extraordinary. You are awesome.
This too shall pass.
Hey,rise up. You have a long way to go. I am looking forward to hear from you.
Stay strong.
Yours always,
A fellow traveler.

Stop blaming everything in 2023 but make a brutal resolution about your life but how?

Life is an adventure but I don’t know how can I save my life?

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Life is the real gold by Titus Vargis

Relevant information about getting the dream life you wish for:

1. Luck is non existent


2. Belief is the most crucial currency of a blessed life.


3. There are different perspectives about everything in life. Choose the best one.


4. Think about your biases. On which bias are you looking on?


5. We get angry when we are not at peace with our Past.


6. Asking forgiveness makes you divine.


7. It takes fear and love both to get moving in any relationship. Fear has it’s purpose.


8. No one can make you angry without your consent.


9. No one can make you happy without your permission.

©Titus Vargis,

https://loveandmarriagecoach.com

How breakthrough comes in a life of mess? How I almost got killed but survived?

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My story by Titus Vargis
Life as we face it by Titus vargis



Life is not mathematics. That means it’s not five plus five equal to ten here.

We can’t lay down our plans but it’s life that overrules here on this planet.

We can either fear or face it. There are no other way around.

As human beings,we are not superhuman. We are not Hollywood superstars either.

Life is difficult and more than difficult for the vast majority of us. What can we do about it?

How did the breakthrough happen? My own life is a great example.



I lost my dad at a very young age. I almost had nothing to hold on to. It was almost impossible to carry on.

I decided to give up. I attempted suicide several times. But I couldn’t succeed. God perhaps had other plans.

No human being could stop my depression. My life was a mess. I had no money. My mother had no job. Moreover my younger brother was in school.

Someone introduced a higher way. I was not ready to accept anything. As I had become hopeless I didn’t even want to try anything.

But after much consideration,I thought why not should I take this chance.

My life changed bit by bit. It was as if I was gaining a new perspective of life. I was vulnerable. I had no hope but now I was hopeful.

Misery became a miracle. I started praying. I started my relationship with Jesus. I had no purpose in life.

My suicidal thoughts began to disappear. I found relief. A big relief.My family began to change.My condition improved.

I don’t want to say that you need to try this too but I would say it gets really better when we try. No one can help a hopeless person. No amount of money can remove bad luck.

One needs a divine hand. It’s in fact the only way. I think had I not tried this path I would have definitely ended my life somehow.

Life gives you no relief. Friends can help to some point. No one walks with you forever.

My life got transformed. It was a miracle indeed.

Let’s face it: you can’t carry pain and despair forever. You can’t live in such desperation. You will not survive.

Now I am glad that I took this path. My life still has a lot of weaknesses but I am courageous now. I am glad that I found the answer.

Best wishes.

My own experience by Titus Vargis
My story by Titus Vargis.

Dear traveler on the journey called life, let me share something.

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You are not your thoughts tell you.

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Hey warrior by Titus Vargis.

Dear traveler,

I am glad to meet you and say something to you.

I believe we all have different names to comment on our struggles on this journey. But I think that we all have the same struggles.

We might be poor or rich. We might be less confident or more.

We might be from countries that are called developed or not so.

We might be thinking we are alone. We think we are here but no one knows us.

Yet,we can’t blame anyone. We are still warriors. We need someone like a mirror that says so. This is the thing we lack. We have many doomsayers. We have many who discourage us.

Yet we are conquerors. We are not aware. The main secret is this: we must not quit.

Sooner or later,we win. We get to the destination. We are really not alone. It’s our mind that tells us that we are alone. Like our mind being programmed .

Share with someone what you go through. Find someone. No one is perfect. We are still traveling.

It’s our ego that stops us from association. It’s our prejudices. It’s our culture. You know what? If we overcome these,we will win together.

Why not? Ask yourself. Ask the universe. Ask the roads. Here,we are not losers.

Stand up. Walk again. Move a bit if you can’t run.

Don’t stop. Let’s start again. Together. Give me your hand. Hold me and let’s run.

I believe in you. Our destiny calls us. Thank you.

Yours brother,
A traveler.

Giving up is Okay and 10 other uncommon perspectives on living your life.

Life is an adventure.

Life is an adventure by Titus Vargis

1. People are everywhere.You need to learn to interact with them.


2. Problems are part of association. As long as we are here on this planet,we will get hurt some way or the other. Accept this.


3. Learn to deal with the weirdness of the masses.


4. Family is the only shelter available here on this Earth. Treat them with utmost importance.


5. No matter what, learn to ask forgiveness from your family. Accept that you made the mistake if you have made it.


6. Loneliness is the most cruel reality of our life on the planet. Learn to embrace it.


7. Develop some habits. It can be anything that you find joy. Immerse yourself into it. It heals your body and soul.


8. You are a soul with a body. Looking after your soul is more important than your body. Learn to feed your soul.


9. Associate with some humans. Find someone who can accompany you. Find your partner.


10.Giving up is okay. Find something new. Keep seeking. No one can tell you what you must do.


11. Life is an adventure. Learn more and more. Unlearn something that you have learnt in the past which serves nothing.

©Titus Vargis
https://loveandmarriagecoach.com

My confessions: I care about others but I am weak. The paradox of weakness.

Why I am strong even in my weaknesses
I am weak but strong

I get hurt easily. Don’t know why. I am caring for others.

Yet I wonder about how easily I get hurt. Especially from my close ones.

I am not selfish. I care about my relationship.

I put my whole being into my children. I put my love.

I never listen to even myself when I get a chance to help my relationship.

Still I get touchy very often.
I am not that vocal about my pain.
I am not easily expressive.

I am keeping my feelings to myself.
I am like that.

But I wonder why I am not that strong.
I am weak frankly. And that’s the reason I care.

That’s why I love my relationship even to the point of being exhausted.

I am weak, that’s why I know what it is to get hurt,what it’s to be unloving.

I have seen enough wrecked people. I have seen people so wicked who don’t care about you.

I have seen getting abused. I have heard painful and hurting abusive language spoken against me.

I have seen my father passed even in my younger days.
I have seen poverty. I have seen people hurting you purposely.

I have seen people who left me when I was vulnerable.
Still I did not stop caring. Especially my relationship.

Frankly speaking,I have not received what I give to others. Others don’t always reciprocate.
This hurts me.

I expect others to see my hurt. I expect them not to say that it breaks my heart.
It seems that they don’t care that much.

Hey,still I have not acted like them. This is not a weakness. This is not stupidity. This is divine.

This is the reason as a human being we are not wiped out of this planet. Such people exist.

This makes the difference.

Thank you for taking time. God bless.

Let me know what are your thoughts.
Do share even if it’s little.
©Titus Vargis
https://loveandmarriagecoach.com

TOP MOST BIBLE VERSES ABOUT NOT GIVING UP…EVEN IN THE HARDEST TIMES

Relationship are awesome

Introduction

Hey my friend,giving up is easy. But I don’t want you to give up.
Well,here are few Bible verses about not giving up.

  • 2 Chronicles 15:7 But as for you, be strong and do not give up, for your work will be rewarded. I Corinthians 15:58 Therefore, my beloved brothers, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that in the Lord your labor is not in vain

Never give up
I will not give up

  • “But do not forget this one thing, dear friends: With the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day. The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.” – 2 Peter 3:8-9 (NIV)
  • “Though he may stumble, he will not fall, for the LORD upholds him with His hand.” – Psalm 37:24 (NIV)
  • “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” – Galatians 6:9 (NIV)
  • “He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” – Isaiah 40:29-31 (NIV)
  • “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” – Isaiah 41:10 (NIV)

Giving up is easy but never give up

Not giving up by any means

  • “But do not forget this one thing, dear friends: With the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day. The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.” – 2 Peter 3:8-9 (NIV)
  • The Lord Holds Us in His Hands

“Though he may stumble, he will not fall, for the LORD upholds him with His hand.” – Psalm 37:24 (NIV)

  • There’s a Harvest for Those Who Don’t Give Up

“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” – Galatians 6:9 (NIV)

  • “He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” – Isaiah 40:29-31 (NIV)
  • God Is With You

“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” – Isaiah 41:10 (NIV)

This verse reminds us that ultimately God’s plans for us are good, no matter what emotions they make us feel in the moment.

  • His Grace Is Sufficient

“But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” – 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 (NIV)

How to increase love in a relationship?

There are different ways to increase love in a relationship. some of them are as follows,

  1. Commitment

In any relationship,commitment is very important. one must be committed to the relationship.without commitment its impossible to move forward.

02. Transparency

this is also crucial.one must be transparent enough. without it no lasting relationship can take place.
sincerity this gives strength to the relationship.

03. Maturity

This is very important. One must be willing to act as a mature adult. this means willing to act as a grown up.

04. Forgiving

This is important. Forgiveness is the glue of relationship. This is the divine element of a relationship.

05. Communication

This enhances love in a relationship. This makes the relationships alive. Without this relationship is dead.

5 important things as a man I wish I got from my relationship!!

Understanding the heart of a man is essential to meet his real needs.

The essential expectations by Titus Vargis.

Understanding the basics of any good relationship is not easy.

You have to let go of your own idea and ask the other person.

It is the foundation on which any great relationship is being built.

Let me share a few significant needs as a man in my relationship,

01. First Love


This is the thing that moves us. As men we look for that. We want our partners to have that same old spark. We can sense it. We yearn for that. Too often,it is missing.

02. A sense of wonder

As men,we look for a sense of wonder. We want to see that we are still heroes as we were at first sight. How often,we don’t get that. We love to see that we are still the number one in our relationships.

03. Not taken for granted

As men we don’t look for many bigger things. Basically we look for our worth. Are we still worthy or are we taken for granted? Well,we can sense it very easily that we are valued or taken for granted. We love to outperform ourselves but first we want to know that we are valued in our relationships.

04. A sense of gratitude

We look for gratitude. Gratitude in the sense of behavior or attitude. When men are given sufficient gratitude we would like to outperform ourselves. It’s the magic that propels us.

05. Understanding our silence

As men we are not always like women. We go into solitude. We go there to think and plan our lives. We don’t want to be misunderstood. When women respect our solitude we usually are ready to give what we are expected to.

©Titus Vargis
https://loveandmarriagecoach.com

On 5 reasons why I like my relationship in spite of 100 reasons to quit!

There ain’t no heaven on earth frankly speaking.

On why I choose to not quit by Titus Vargis




Well the title itself says it all. We are all sum total of our imperfections and strengths. No one is from above.
We can do two things,either we can look at good things or imperfections in our lives and relationships.

Both views have an immense impact on the quality of our lives and relationships.

Either we will look to good things and focus only on it. Thereby lead a great life. The other option is looking for imperfections and getting doomed.

We actually have no real choice here on earth. We have to embrace the imperfections no matter what.

Well,the choice is up to you and me.
Let me share my five reasons on why I appreciate my relationship,

01. Life is short to keep on looking for perfect relationships. Really you and I can’t keep on moving from one relationship to another. Each of us have immense imperfections. It’s wise to stick to the one who shares your life values and loves you.



02. Loneliness is the most common sickness that leads to death. I don’t want to live alone and get lost in life. I choose to stay in my relationship.



03. We both have different strengths and we both meet the needs of each other. That’s why I stay in my relationship.



04. My relationship gives me a sense of significance. I stay in my relationship because it gives me a meaning in life.



05. I have seen many relationships getting broken around. I don’t want to lose my opportunities in life. I stay and know that life is an adventure filled with lots of happiness and surprises.

©Titus Vargis, PhD
https://loveandmarriagecoach.com