Most crucial facts about your life and relationship

There are no shortcuts to fulfilling life.

We are a postmodern generation. We have all the comforts which the previous generation did not have.

The basics of life by Titus Vargis

We are a generation of no scarcity. 

Everything is available for us at the time we want it. The downside of this abundance is our lack of thinking about others. We seldom think about giving,but getting.

Times we live in by Titus Vargis

As a matter of fact we are the most selfish generation of all time.

It’s difficult for us to understand that giving is the only way for getting things in life.

What are the implementations of this? Let me share some important aspects which will bring drastic transformation in our relationships,

01. We get what we give. Let’s get it right.We get respect by first giving respect. Respect is not demanded. We must learn to give respect to our partner no matter what.

BEGIN THE ADVENTURE WITH US.
Heavenly relationships by Titus Vargis

02. Love is not a product that we can get by money,or power. Love is not dependent on our education or status. We must first give love in order to get it.

03. Just as accidents on roads are part of driving on the road, mistakes are part of being human It’s hard to expect perfection from a being that is bound to make mistakes because we are not robots. Accept mistakes as mistakes. Treat it like an accident. No one drives just to get into any accident. It happens. Unless we treat weakness as an integral part of our existence we would kill each other and harbor grudges.

04. In life 5 plus 5 is not always 10. What I mean is that you cannot expect people to act logically each time. We are also emotional beings. We do things sometimes out of our feelings of fear or anger. We may go wrong sometimes. It happens. Understand that life is not predictable. Things go wrong in spite of our careful calculations.

The game of life by Titus Vargis

05. Every day is a golden opportunity to do something different. No one is chained to act as if life is meaningless. Why not try a different approach? Why not try talking in a fair way? Why not make some other plans if plan A has gone wrong? Life is an adventure. Why don’t we change the patterns that make our relationship dull or boring? 

©Titus Vargis.

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8 innovative ways for navigating your conflicts with your child and maintaining a healthier relationship.

Children are awesome and they deserve better treatment.

Responsible parenting by Titus Vargis

https://www.hindustantimes.com/lifestyle/relationships/peaceful-parenting-8-effective-tips-for-navigating-parent-child-conflicts-and-building-a-healthier-relationship-101691748374464.html

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Our pleasure to help you by Titus Vargis.

You are not alone. We are here to help you as you go through rough times in your life and relationship.

Come and see what great things can happen when you believe.

We are here to make you succeed.

Yes,you can find joy again.

© Titus Vargis.

7 things my relationship breakdown taught me that no coach can teach.

What Life teaches you no one can teach on this planet.

Life as an ultimate relationship coach by Titus Vargis

Over the course of my relationship I had to learn many things.

As with everything else, in order for a relationship to work better I had to relearn and unlearn many many essential things.

Unfortunately,my relationship breakdown brought me to the walls.

I had to change myself and my way of dealing. Some of the important lessons that I learnt are as follows,


01.No one can fulfill you apart from yourself. Fulfilled life happens when you make efforts on yourself. No one can do it for you.


02.You are responsible for your own wellbeing. Others cannot be responsible for your well-being. They can only support you to some extent.

Relationship by choice by Titus Vargis


03.Your partner can’t be your savior by any chance. It’s suicidal to exalt anyone to meet all your needs.
Don’t expect even gods to solve your personal chaos. You must get up and keep yourself straight.

04.Others are not obliged to clean up your mess. You need to act mature and take up the responsibility.


05.It’s not a relationship that brings blessings but your own attitude. Everything depends upon your perspective.


06.What you give will ultimately return to you. This law seems to apply to all things on this planet.

There are no shortcuts by Titus Vargis


07.There is no overnight birth of a beautiful life and relationship. Don’t expect to eat apples overnight when you have not waited for a good amount of time. Nothing happens overnight.

© Titus Vargis

Understanding narcissistic females and 3 very easy ways to deal with them.

You don’t have to be a victim anymore,take control of your life now.

You are not the victim anymore by Titus Vargis.

The fault in our relationship by Titus Vargis


There is a huge rise in abusive females in our world.
It’s not reported by most men out of shame.

Our Society likes to think it’s the female who’s always the weak,so the equation goes like this:

Abusive relationships = men at fault.

The reason behind this equation is that men are stronger than women.

This is the most fallacious misconception. It’s not the truth.
In Fact this is the real culprit. The real cause of marital breakdown.


In any case of reporting to the police,there is bias at work in the system.The police just ignore men and never listen to what men want to say.


Most of the time it won’t be accepted by society that any woman can abuse a man.


This is gross inhuman practice that’s prevalent in many so called developed countries.

Let me put in following points in order to explore these personality:

1) Consider the ads and movies, where it’s common to see women belittling men, even many men are projected there as stupid, foolish.

2) Society, especially narcissistic ones, are training girls and women to abuse men in their lives be it indirectly. The so-called feminist movements add fuel to it.

3) Society as a whole is narrating a different mode of conduct with regards to men.
It’s brainwashing to the point of hating men no matter what.

4) Narcissistic women teach others to refuse to respect any boundaries set by society and men.

There must be a way by Titus Vargis



5) Narcissists play the victim card.
Of course they cry,scream and create drama. They know very well how to influence people a lot so that they will believe in their account.

6) Narcissistic women can’t take any form of constructive feedback.

7) Narcissists lack empathy.
They have no feelings for men! They love a little and hate you at the same time.

8) Narcissists withhold sex to punish men.

9) Narcissists are materialistic.
They will say things like,
you take me out, you give me what I want when I want it.


10.Narcissistic values men based on his financial capabilities.

The blackmail by Titus Vargis




PART B.HOW TO MANAGE A NARCISSISTIC PARTNER?

1.Don’t take the bait.

They are irrational, far from reality. Whatever comes from them is not rational.
Completely ignore them. when they want you to react,just leave the room.

2. When they start to play with your feelings just tell them,

“You are right with your emotions just as I am.”

3.They struggle with their internal chaos and their life shows just the same.
Don’t allow them to dictate your life. Take control of your life.

© Titus Vargis

Are you asking the Right question to others? Alert: This might forever change their destiny.

The power of a more sensible approach towards others even when you don’t want to help others.

The power to impact others by Titus Vargis

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Hey ladies,this is the top complaint of men & listen you can incorporate these 11 things to resolve this.

Relationships are awesome but need maintenance from your side too.

Hey Dear Women,

Let me straight forward come to my point. And please do listen to me. I am here for your care and benefits.
Would you please hear the number 1 complain of most Men?

Remember this and save your relationship forever :Your man is not a lifetime punching bag you bought from somewhere.

The number 1 Complaint Men have regarding women in Relationships is: abusive words spoken by women to express their true feelings while being upset.

Men must not raise their hands over a woman. Just like this, women should not Speak rudely against men no matter what.

God has made everyone equal. Men and Women. Both are equal. Yet both Should know what hurts others?

Women, unknowingly or knowingly hurt men by telling what shouldn’t be said at all.

Women need to know their words said in angry moments have equal potential to hurt their man.

Society does not care about what women do Or say. Well it hurts to the point of killing.

It seems that only Men can harm a
woman. Really?

Out of all the Relationships breakdown nearly 87% is due to this monumental error of women.



Women should know their words have a monumental impact.It’s not that words do not matter.

Perhaps, she should know that words
can literally kill like any poison.

Words literally kills. Majority of men who have suffered a Relationship break down very often complain that women have abused them emotionally.

Men say that they have been abused & blackmailed by their women.


Many many men have literally been killed by abusive women.

Emotional abuse by women is considered a lesser sin.

women think that it’s just raising their concerns to their men. But they forget that raising their concerns in an abusive way can harm others, including men.

They Should choose the words carefully.

If words are uttered without considering their partner it can sabotage their beautiful relationship.


Beauty is useless if the mouth is foul. Your man is not a heartless creature just to serve you.

He is not your dad or brother.
He is your equal life partner.

Who gave you authority to trample down your man?

Of course no one has that authority.

Do you think is this the way relationships work?

women, you need understand this: Just as raising hands by men is
violence not worthy of tolerance- in the same way uttering foul words is equal to violence.

Women should respect their men by words and deeds.



Most of the men complain that they have been abused verbally by their partners on a regular basis. No one even say that this is not just acceptable.



Creating an environment of fear by abusive words is a serious violence not tolerable.


Trust me, as a man, I can say that words hurt so much.Even kills.
Don’t excuse yourself by saying that I didn’t mean to hurt you.

Relationships are not meant to be taken for granted. Don’t act like a child.

You might say that I felt it that way & said that.

But No, you are not given permission to hurt others.

You must not utter words in the most fair way. What we say is important. How we say it is also very important.

PART B: 11 QUICK SOLUTIONS

Quick solutions by Titus Vargis

So, here are a few insights into how a woman can express their feelings without hurting men.

1) Before uttering some word, spend time alone. It’s fine to not act on the impulse. Good things take time. Too much hurry spoils a thing. You are right but don’t rush.

Don’t rush by Titus vargis.



2) Don’t speak in the heat of the moment. The number one mistake we make is speaking what we are feeling at the moment. Well, it’s not advisable. It can do more harm.

Silence is powerful often by Titus Vargis.



3)Take a blank sheet of paper and write down what feelings you are going through. Write everything you feel.

Write it down by Titus Vargis.



4) After writing, take a deep breath. Calm yourself completely. Try to be present at the moment. Relax. Do what makes you calm. Watch a movie,go for shopping, gardening etc.

Art of calm by Titus vargis.



5) Ask your man when he’s available to listen to you. Don’t be rude and demand that he urgently make arrangements to talk. Everything must be done in a fair way.

The man and the science behind by Titus Vargis.



6) Preferably, while discussing these choose a place free from family or children.



7) Once he assigns some time, wait for that. Don’t Complain if he can’t listen right when you want him to.



8) Once you meet, carefully share your concerns and feelings.

Take care by Titus vargis.



9) Keep your tone absolutely normal. Don’t say as if to hurt him. Let there be respect. Show fairness. Be kind in your tone. Don’t be rude or insensitive. This might spoil all efforts.



10) Once you have shared, tell him ‘Thank you for giving time’. Give respect and receive back hundred folds. Relationships are about little things. Remember that.

Understand the basic problem by Titus Vargis.



11) Understand that he needs enough time to process what you have said. Don’t expect him to resolve issues at the same time. Be mature enough to understand this.

I strongly believe that these things are very crucial in any relationship.

Relationships are not made in heaven but nourished by two mature adults who know to refrain from unfair practices.

Best wishes,

© Titus Vargis.

Straight from the heart: Never do this in Love or not.

It can literally kill someone you might know.

Straight from the heart by Titus Vargis

If you are in love say it.If you really really are in genuine love,go and say it.

Because expressing your love is very okay.

But I have an advice to those who say I love you for the sake of saying it and who want to manipulate others.

I feel playing with other’s feelings is a terrible form of violence.

You might not know how other person feel when they see your true face.

It’s tragic! It’s a crime! I say mother of all tragedies.

If you say I love you and then try to act like it but you have no proof of it,then literally you are stabbing the other person.

It’s a tragedy when someone believes in you and later finds out that you are a liar!People are not toys to play with. When someone gets attracted to you and they hear loving words from you then they really believe you for it.

But to fake love it’s killing the other person.Love is a serious business,and you either make a person or break them.

Never say I love you for the sake of using the person for your own selfish ambition.

Authentic Love and Relationship: How does it look like?

There are few real signs to identify the authenticity of love and relationship.

The signs of true Love by Titus Vargis.


Love is the most misunderstood word on the planet.I think the most most commonly used word in the world would be LOVE. I strongly believe another set of words that are mostly used would be I, We, Us and Me.


What is the conclusion I make from these?
Word ‘Love’ is commonly used when we are not literally meaning it.

We use it to mean that we like something, or someone based on our likes and biases.

Not necessarily that others are in our hearts or we are deeply moved by the other.

You see, we are the most selfish generation of the history of mankind.
Look at the news or any groups or any so called unselfish people groups who are selflessly doing to mankind much favors.


First of all, why is that these groups or people promote themselves when they are utterly selfless?! It’s a joke!

Who in the world is selfless and selfish at the same time?! It’s absurd!


Well, we live in a time such as this. For us LOVE is equal to SELF. Our motives are clear. We will use any opportunity to gain other’s attention and gains.


We can even use the words such as LOVE or SELFLESS acts of kindness. While the reality is totally different.
We fool others and we are deeply perfect in this.

Our schools or colleges teach us and train us to be utterly selfish and put others down at any cost in the name of the so called SUCCESS.

What is the conclusion regarding the love we see around. LOVE of ours is superficial and plastic. It fools others. It is used to gain something.

It is utterly selfish and lacks genuineness. Why is it that we kill each other in the name of religion? Why the educated masses are easily swayed away by fanaticism?!

Why we say we are civilized and at the same time we are totally corrupt and not willing to sacrifice for the sake of others?


Love is kind, selfless, sacrifice, forgiving, bearing one another in weaknesses ,and laying down our own Demonic pride.

Love and the ways to identify the authenticity of love by Titus Vargis.

Let me share few significant characteristics of such authentic Love and Relationship,


1.True love is coming out of self. It’s all about others and not us.


2.It’s concerned more about not my bread or my money but about other’s hunger and sufferings.


3.It’s about giving,giving and utterly giving.


4.It’s about making a mark in the lives of those who cannot repay us back by any means.


5.It’s about our forgiving when grace is not possible.


6.It’s about showing mercy to the offender the tenth or eleventh time.


7.It’s about not scoring but about getting unnoticed.


8.It’s not about marketing or getting famous but making the lives of the other much more better than before.Its simple and profound.

Let’s decode the thing called Love by Titus Vargis.

©Titus vargis,

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10 examples of how your partner may be gaslighting you in a relationship.

The truth of the problem and the ways to deal with it.

The underlying causes

https://www.hindustantimes.com/lifestyle/relationships/10-examples-of-how-your-partner-may-be-gaslighting-you-in-a-relationship-101690100216000.html

Look,what we have done! and where we are heading to

We are the Superpowers….

Dreamland by Titus Vargis.

How we used to,

while we were dreaming,

a dawn of,

Dreamland,fairy tales

sort of,how we used

to brag about,

we will have,

the perfect relationships,

the perfect

AI powered kitchen,

cars,Nuclear weapons,

So on,where

are you now?

What happened to our children,

where did they go?

they have assignments

to do,they are fighting wars,

for the sake of

Supremacy fights,

ego clashes,

Look,how far have come!

We can have famines,

wars anytime we want,

Bio weapons to

hide our weaknesses,

look we are heading to,

mass suicides,

fooling ourselves,

we are nothing more,than animals…

©Titus Vargis,PhD

ARE YOU GOING THROUGH TOUGH TIMES,HERE ARE SOME GREAT NEWS JUST FOR YOU.

Hey don’t be giving up when things are going against you.

Tough times are not for ever.

Here are some wisdom and inspiration for you as you might be facing rough times in your life or relationship.

1. If you accept tough times are part of the seasons of life, it will keep you from sinking into depression.



2. Maintain a healthy perspective. Going through tough times doesn’t mean you are not blessed, you are actually being prepared for something great. Preparation is often not easy but it is the foundation of better things to come.



3. Tough times will reveal to you your true friends and expose the fake ones.



4. Tough times will introduce to you real friends who are attracted to your purpose.



5. The best ideas tend to be conceptualized in tough times.



6. Sometimes God allows you to go through tough times to wake you up and get your attention especially when you have become too familiar with Him.



7. Sometimes you have to reach a dead end where no one but God can help you, so that no one but God can receive the glory.



8. Great people have learnt the art of converting tough times into a path to being a master of something.



9. There are some lessons that tough times will teach you that good times can’t.



10. Tough times will open your eyes to see opportunities and doors that complacent you did not.



11. Some of us lack the courage to move past our current level and lack the initiative to take the next step on our own, tough times will catapult you to the next stage of your life that you are afraid to take.



12. Tough times will make you naked so that you see yourself for who you truly are. Tough times will force you to be real with yourself, what are you really made of? Because when you are going through tough times, there is no one to impress, you have to be you.



13. Most couples enter their best season after they reach rock bottom. That is when their true love is tested and they emerge stronger together.

May you find strength and wisdom to face your rough times,and may you rise up stronger than ever.

Best wishes.

Everything has meaning and everyone is connected,no matter what

The underlying causes of our disruptions which we often overlook

The Matrix by Titus Vargis.

everything has

meaning. and a purpose

we all are awesome!!

connected and made to

live connected.

No matter what.

a spouse,a child,

father or mother

even little ones.

we were

hardwired to live

interconnected.

what happens to one

spreads to another.

might be pain or

loneliness,

or disappointments

ecstasy, enlightenment

we are spreading

everything

that comes to us

in the form of waves,

you like it or not.

we are not perfect

but we are spreading

everything that comes

to us wether love,hatred, jealousy,guilt,

cruelty,shame,joy

and happiness.

we do it always.

As part of an ocean,

each waves spreads

to everyone we live with.

The pain we feel

is felt by everyone around,

all other vice or virtue.

we hurt and get hurt.

we smile we are

smiled upon.

why don’t we realise sooner?

loving my neighbour

is loving myself.

loving my partner

is loving myself.

loving my child

is loving myself…..

© Titus vargis.

5 things I hate in my partner and everyone should avoid these in a Relationship.

There can be no sorry for some issues in any relationship.

There is no excuse my dear by Titus Vargis

5 things I hate in my marriage, and these can happen in any relationship.

Well,they must be avoided at any cost to save your relationship.


01. When I don’t receive back what I give. I always try my best to give love,care, and forgiveness to my partner. Even respect when I feel I have been mistreated.


02. When I don’t feel that my partner keeps the secrets about me. This frustrates me.


03. When I find that in matters of money I cannot ask my partner about my needs.when I get answers like it’s my money,why didn’t you keep your money? This turns me off. I strongly believe that as a partner one should help each other in all ways possible.


04. When I am not consulted regarding some major issues. It can be buying any stuffs or taking a big decision. As a partner one should always first ask one’s partner about their suggestions.


05. When I am ridiculed in front of others and my partner too joins them. This hurts me the most.

©Titus Vargis,PhD

7 relationship secrets that one must know to have a lasting Relationship.

Well,most of the Relationship coach wont tell you this.

The love that stands on the Rock by Titus Vargis.

How can a Relationship coach help when one is in crisis and the partner is indifferent? 

Relationships are not easy as it appears. It’s not like 2 plus 2 equals 4.

It’s really complicated. Sometimes one partner is serious and the other one is just passing time.

What can we do in such a situation? 

There are very good people around who can help you. 

But in order to get lasting solutions one must not forget these relationship principles,

  1. Relationship is a marathon. Its not a short race.One must understand this.
  2. Both the partners must be mature enough to make changes in themselves. No one is perfect here. 
  3. If one partner thinks that he or she is perfect then that relationship won’t last long. It’s so simple. 
  4. Relationships are not one night stands. It’s neither romance nor a joy ride. It’s much larger than that.
  5. We begin with love but we go forward with commitment and lots of sacrifice.
  6. Relationships are not for kids or immature people. It’s not for sex or time pass. 
  7. Relationships are not measured by looks or money but by transparency and sincerity. Looks can backfire.

Hey,You are not the Saviour!

The real thing that wrecks you and me. Hey man, You are not the Savior Just a man! You put the blame take advantage of all sorts. you have the might and cocktail of Power, influence deadly desire. you think you are right absolutely right. Did you see your own child crying when alone? Or … Read more