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Authentic Love and Relationship: How does it look like?

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There are few real signs to identify the authenticity of love and relationship.

The signs of true Love by Titus Vargis.


Love is the most misunderstood word on the planet.I think the most most commonly used word in the world would be LOVE. I strongly believe another set of words that are mostly used would be I, We, Us and Me.


What is the conclusion I make from these?
Word ‘Love’ is commonly used when we are not literally meaning it.

We use it to mean that we like something, or someone based on our likes and biases.

Not necessarily that others are in our hearts or we are deeply moved by the other.

You see, we are the most selfish generation of the history of mankind.
Look at the news or any groups or any so called unselfish people groups who are selflessly doing to mankind much favors.


First of all, why is that these groups or people promote themselves when they are utterly selfless?! It’s a joke!

Who in the world is selfless and selfish at the same time?! It’s absurd!


Well, we live in a time such as this. For us LOVE is equal to SELF. Our motives are clear. We will use any opportunity to gain other’s attention and gains.


We can even use the words such as LOVE or SELFLESS acts of kindness. While the reality is totally different.
We fool others and we are deeply perfect in this.

Our schools or colleges teach us and train us to be utterly selfish and put others down at any cost in the name of the so called SUCCESS.

What is the conclusion regarding the love we see around. LOVE of ours is superficial and plastic. It fools others. It is used to gain something.

It is utterly selfish and lacks genuineness. Why is it that we kill each other in the name of religion? Why the educated masses are easily swayed away by fanaticism?!

Why we say we are civilized and at the same time we are totally corrupt and not willing to sacrifice for the sake of others?


Love is kind, selfless, sacrifice, forgiving, bearing one another in weaknesses ,and laying down our own Demonic pride.

Love and the ways to identify the authenticity of love by Titus Vargis.

Let me share few significant characteristics of such authentic Love and Relationship,


1.True love is coming out of self. It’s all about others and not us.


2.It’s concerned more about not my bread or my money but about other’s hunger and sufferings.


3.It’s about giving,giving and utterly giving.


4.It’s about making a mark in the lives of those who cannot repay us back by any means.


5.It’s about our forgiving when grace is not possible.


6.It’s about showing mercy to the offender the tenth or eleventh time.


7.It’s about not scoring but about getting unnoticed.


8.It’s not about marketing or getting famous but making the lives of the other much more better than before.Its simple and profound.

Let’s decode the thing called Love by Titus Vargis.

©Titus vargis,

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5 things I hate in my partner and everyone should avoid these in a Relationship.

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There can be no sorry for some issues in any relationship.

There is no excuse my dear by Titus Vargis

5 things I hate in my marriage, and these can happen in any relationship.

Well,they must be avoided at any cost to save your relationship.


01. When I don’t receive back what I give. I always try my best to give love,care, and forgiveness to my partner. Even respect when I feel I have been mistreated.


02. When I don’t feel that my partner keeps the secrets about me. This frustrates me.


03. When I find that in matters of money I cannot ask my partner about my needs.when I get answers like it’s my money,why didn’t you keep your money? This turns me off. I strongly believe that as a partner one should help each other in all ways possible.


04. When I am not consulted regarding some major issues. It can be buying any stuffs or taking a big decision. As a partner one should always first ask one’s partner about their suggestions.


05. When I am ridiculed in front of others and my partner too joins them. This hurts me the most.

©Titus Vargis,PhD

7 relationship secrets that one must know to have a lasting Relationship.

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Well,most of the Relationship coach wont tell you this.

The love that stands on the Rock by Titus Vargis.

How can a Relationship coach help when one is in crisis and the partner is indifferent? 

Relationships are not easy as it appears. It’s not like 2 plus 2 equals 4.

It’s really complicated. Sometimes one partner is serious and the other one is just passing time.

What can we do in such a situation? 

There are very good people around who can help you. 

But in order to get lasting solutions one must not forget these relationship principles,

  1. Relationship is a marathon. Its not a short race.One must understand this.
  2. Both the partners must be mature enough to make changes in themselves. No one is perfect here. 
  3. If one partner thinks that he or she is perfect then that relationship won’t last long. It’s so simple. 
  4. Relationships are not one night stands. It’s neither romance nor a joy ride. It’s much larger than that.
  5. We begin with love but we go forward with commitment and lots of sacrifice.
  6. Relationships are not for kids or immature people. It’s not for sex or time pass. 
  7. Relationships are not measured by looks or money but by transparency and sincerity. Looks can backfire.