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The ONE Parenting Trick to Transform Your Relationship with Your Teen!                                            
Discover the ONE remarkable parenting trick that will transform your relationship with your teen. Make your bond stronger and communication smoother with this expert advice. Learn how this method works and start seeing positive changes immediately!

Straight Talk on Teenagers

When it comes to dealing with teenagers, it’s essential to understand that they are going through a transformative phase. Hormones, identity crises, and peer pressure can make this period particularly challenging for both parents and teens.

  “Parents, remain calm. Your anxiety won’t solve the issues; understanding and patience will.”

Parents, Just Be Calm. Why Are You Anxious?

Raising teenagers can be an emotional rollercoaster, but maintaining a calm demeanor is crucial. Anxiety and overreacting can lead to unnecessary conflicts.

Why Staying Calm Matters:

Reduces Stress: Both for you and your teen.
Encourages Open Dialogue: When you’re calm, your teens are more likely to come to you with their problems.
Teaches Emotional Regulation: When you model calmness, your teens learn how to manage their own emotions better.

Your Teens Will Learn What They Need To

Believe in the learning process of your teens. They are more capable than you might think. Often, the genuine concern you show is more impactful than constant supervision.

What Your Genuine Concern Means:

Support System: Being genuinely concerned provides them with a sense of security.

Motivation: Genuine concern can motivate them to put in their best efforts.

Growth: Your trust allows them to grow at their own pace.

Think About Your Own Teenage Years

Remember your own teenage years and how far you’ve come. Despite the challenges, you turned out just fine.

Self-Reflection:

Pride in Growth: Think about the achievements you’ve made since then.

Empathy: It helps you empathize with your teen’s experiences.

Adaptability: You adapted despite any parental shortcomings; your teen will too.

Trust Your Teens

Your trust is vital for their emotional and psychological development. Hand-holding doesn’t help them grow, but trust does.

Ways to Show Trust:

Encourage Independence: Let them make choices and face the consequences.

Offer Support, Not Commands: Be available for advice, but let them navigate their own paths.

Praise Their Efforts: Recognize their efforts and achievements; it enhances self-esteem.

Be a Guide, But Not the Captain

Parents should serve as guides, not captains. Your role is to provide direction without steering the ship for them.

How to Guide:

Impart Wisdom: Share important life lessons.

Be Available: Always be there to help them when they need it.

Respect Their Choices: Trust their judgment and give them the freedom to choose.

Teach Them Important Rules of Life

Setting foundational rules is key, but how you teach these rules can make all the difference.

Important Life Rules to Share:

Integrity: Always emphasize the importance of honesty and integrity.

Respect for Others: Teach them to respect everyone, regardless of differences.

Financial Literacy: Basic lessons in managing money and responsibilities.

Healthy Habits: Encourage physical and mental health practices.

Share About Your Own Failures and How You Overcame Them

Opening up about your failures shows that making mistakes is a part of life and learning.

Why It Matters:

Reduces Pressure: They understand that they don’t need to be perfect.

Builds Resilience: Shows them that failures are stepping stones.

Authenticity: It makes you more relatable and easier to approach.

Correct Them if They are Going Astray

Guiding your teen back on track should be done with care and understanding, not anger and reprimand.

How to Correct:

Be Gentle but Firm: Approach the subject calmly but seriously.

Explain the Consequences: Help them understand the consequences of their actions.

Encourage Positive Change: Offer solutions and alternatives.

Give Respect as You Would Want From Them

Mutual respect is the foundation of a strong parent-teen relationship.

How to Show Respect:

Active Listening: Genuinely listen to what they have to say.

Value Their Opinions: Even if you disagree, value their perspective.

Treat Them Fairly: Ensure your actions and words reflect fairness.

Treat Them as Growing Up Kids; They Deserve Freedom

Finally, remember that they are growing individuals who need freedom to explore and find themselves.

Ways to Offer Freedom:

Reasonable Boundaries: Set boundaries, but don’t micromanage.

Encourage Exploration: Support their interests and hobbies.

Trust Building: Give them responsibilities to show you trust their judgment.

“Your teens are on a journey to find themselves. Trust, respect, and gentle guidance will help them more than anxious control ever could.”

By embracing these strategies, you’ll find that dealing with teenagers doesn’t have to be a fraught experience. Instead, it can be a journey of mutual growth and understanding.
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51 Power words for raising smart kids.

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It takes something more to raise a smart child,what are they?

Power words to use by Titus Vargis.




Kids are spontaneous and they find real happiness in the simple pleasures of life.

They get thrilled and enjoy little things like when they see a small bird, jump over dirty puddles, and even when they get to have their favorite ice creams.

They also like us go through the occasional blues,feel sad and be depressed too.

Power words can instill smart skills in kids to face life smartly.

These power words for kids are a great addition to a child’s vocabulary. These vocabulary words for kids really help them learn how to be encouraging, kind and nurturing.



It creates an encouraging and nurturing environment, which is helpful for their well-being and growth.

Here is a list of Power words for kids to help them build a strong and encouraging vocabulary.


1.Awesome
2.Trustful
3.Confident
4.Leader
5.Passionate
6.Young
7.Motivating
8.Adaptable
9.Endearing
10.Adventurous
11.Free
12.Persuasive
13.Practical
14.Decisive
15.Fan
16.Steady
17.Understanding
18.Successful
19.Accomplished
20.Straight
21.Enterprising
22.Witty
23.Forward
24.Warm
25.Courteous
26.Poetic
27.Happy
28.Brave
29.Consistent
30.Stunning
31.Detailed
32.Focused
33.Particular
34.Fervent
35.Quick
36.Fast
37.Talented
38.Nurturing
39.Distinguished
40.Eager
41.Inventor
42.Honest
43.Fascinating
44.Authentic
45.Proud
46.Balanced
47.Wondrous
48.Brilliant
49.Skilled
50.Special
51.Worthy

Raising a smart child by Titus Vargis.

© Titus Vargis

https://loveandmarriagecoach.com

10 things that kill your kid’s positivity and what can you do about it now?

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Better parenting by Titus vargis.

Kids are no less than divine. You can kill their positivity unknowingly.

Kids are very fragile and we should know how to handle them.

What kids go through in their life affect their future very much.

Most of the times parents are not careful about how they deal with their kids.

What parents do with their kids have immense impact on their kids. 

Better parenting by Titus Vargis.

Let’s examine what are those things which kill kid’s positivity: 

     01. Constant criticism is the number one poison which kills positivity. Parents who constantly criticise over small things can destroy kid’s self esteem.

    02. Making kids a slave and making them do things forcefully. Kids are slaves when they are required to follow instructions over every things they need to do.This can seriously harm them in their long run.They lose all sense of self worth. 

    03. Abusing kids in behaviour or words.Kids are not stones.They are human beings too.What we as adult feel they feel too. When we abuse them they start abusing themselves. 

    04. Loving kids based on their performance. Kids are often praised or punished as their performance. Kids are not machines.what you think is not possible for them all the times.

    05. Cruel words by parents or family can seriously hamper their positive growth.parents who discipline using harsh and cruel words can discourage their kids.They even can give up and become suicidal. 

    Be an awesome parents by Titus Vargis.

    06. Stop Over pampering. Kids need to be learning uneasy things too.Giving them too much of pampering can make them less confident. 

    07. Violence in any form can literally kill the positivity of your kids.When kids face violence in their homes they can start rebelling. 

    08. Giving them what they ask quickly can hamper their perceptions about reality of life.Kids need to learn that not all things can be obtained as they want.This is life and parents need to teach them.

    09. Taking decisions on behalf of kids can have a negative impact. Let kids take the responsibility and make their own decisions. Ofcourse you can guide them.

    10. Not listening to kids can have a negative impact. They might feel worthless and think that their opinions and matters dont value much.

    Better parenting by Titus vargis.

    PART 02. WHAT CAN YOU DO BETTER AS A PARENT?

    Now let’s see what parents can do to stop being negative to their kids: 

    A. Be careful how you deal with them.They need respect too just as much you do.

    B. Never use harsh words.

    C. Always praise for their small achievements.

    D. Love them more and criticise them less.

    E. Show your full support when they need it from you.Even when they are weak or failing.

    F. Let children know you are on their side.

    G. Stop correcting their behaviour all the time.

    They need freedom and space just as you do.

    Lets see that our kids remain strong as they grow with us.We need to  healthy and confident kids.That must be  the ultimate goal of any parents.

    ©Dr.Titus Verghese,

    (titusvargis.substack.com)

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