How does the perfect marriage look like? 4 essential qualities of the perfect marriage.

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These are the signs of a perfect marriage, When both partners 1. Encourage healthy self-acceptance. One of the key signs of a good marriage is cultivating healthy self- acceptance The first step towards being a good husband or wife is to accept yourself. You need to have a good relationship with yourself, before you can … Read more

Effective Bible verses for not giving up in life

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Life can be extremely challenging. “Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Jesus clearly stated that in this life we would have tribulation and trouble and pain and distress but that we should also be courageous, confident, and joyful because He … Read more

Does God want me to love myself?

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The question is this, is it okay to love myself? It’s an important question. But where can we get the right answers? Moreover, it looks like there is some debate on this,when all that is spoken of is Cross and self-death. According to Jesus, “love your neighbor as yourself” (Mark 12:31) means that we must … Read more

The Healing Power of Forgiveness: Embracing Mistakes and Rebuilding Relationships

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The ultimate guide for quick fix relationship Introduction Understanding Our Shared Imperfections Mistakes are a natural part of being human, from small slip-ups to significant blunders that shape our lives. It’s crucial to realize that making errors doesn’t reflect incompetence; instead, it highlights our common imperfections. This article explores the profound impact of forgiveness, bridging … Read more

Do you know The Fundamental Purposes of Human Existence?

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What is the main reason for our existence In the vast tapestry of existence, humans find themselves weaving a complex narrative of purpose and meaning. Beyond the daily hustle and bustle, there lies a profound quest to understand why we are here and what roles we play on this beautiful planet we call home. Embracing … Read more

The strong, the weak and being alive. How can we differentiate?

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The wars inside no one cares. Life is not hard but impossible. We say we are developed but look around, how stupid nations are. How is the state of sanity? Think about Israel, Gaza or Ukraine. How cruel mankind is! We have sophisticated weapons, machines,excellent killing weapons but for what? To kill. Who can say, … Read more

10 Big turn offs for men

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What is a Turn off? A turn-off is any habit you find unappealing, embarrassing, or disgusting. Seeing this habit regularly is enough to make you lose interest in someone, especially someone you are already developing feelings for. Turn-offs in a relationship are habits your partner displays that make you angry, jealous, or sad. Naturally, your … Read more

12 Reasons Why It’s Hard for Men to love a woman?

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The dilemma of understanding a woman Introduction A. Understanding the complexities of love between men and womenB. Recognizing the unique difficulties and hurdles faced by men in relationships Emotional Understanding A. Navigating the emotional complexities of women 1. Decoding mixed signals and subtle cues 2. Dealing with shifting emotions and unpredictability 3. Understanding the importance … Read more

Unleashing the Power Self-Care: A Guide for Men.

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How can men do effective self care? # Unleashing the Power Self-Care: A Guide for Men ## I. Introduction – Understanding importance of self-care– Breaking the stigma: Men deserve self-care ## II. What is Self-Care? Self-care is the practice of actively taking care of oneself in order to enhance overall well-being. It involves making deliberate … Read more

“Unveiling the Path to Enduring Joy: Learning to Over Depression and Embrace Every Moment”

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The puzzle of life by Titus Vargis



I. Introduction
A. Understanding the significance of joy in life
B. The prevalence and impact of depression

II. Defining Joy and Depression
A. Exploring the concept of joy and its dimensions
B. Recognizing depression as a mental health condition

III. The Science of Joy and Depression
A. Uncovering the neurological processes behind joy
B. Investigating the neurochemistry of depression

IV. Cultivating Mindfulness and Gratitude
A. Embracing mindfulness for greater presence and appreciation
B. Practicing gratitude to reframe perspectives

V. Finding Meaning and Purpose
A. Discovering personal values and passions
B. Harnessing purpose as a driving force for joy

VI. Nurturing Positive Relationships
A. Building a support network for emotional well-being
B. Fostering healthy connections to combat feelings of isolation

VII. Harnessing the Power of Self-Compassion
A. Developing self-compassion as a countermeasure to depression
B. Embracing self-care practices for holistic well-being

VIII. Engaging in Physical Exercise and Well-being Activities
A. Exploring the role of physical activity in uplifting mood
B. Integrating well-being practices to enhance joy

IX. Embracing Mindset Shifts for Resilience
A. Challenging negative thought patterns
B. Fostering resilience to navigate through difficult times

X. Unleashing the Healing Power of Creativity
A. Exploring creative outlets as modes of self-expression
B. Utilizing creativity to reframe experiences and emotions

XI. Seeking Professional Help
A. Recognizing the importance of seeking professional support
B. Understanding therapy and other treatment options

XII. Reconnecting with Nature
A. Discovering the therapeutic benefits of nature
B. Engaging in ecotherapy for enhanced well-being

XIII. Balancing Work and Leisure
A. Establishing healthy work-life boundaries
B. Incorporating leisure activities to restore joy

XIV. The Role of Nutrition in Mental Well-being
A. Examining the link between diet and mood
B. Incorporating nourishing foods for mental health

XV. Overcoming Stigmas surrounding Depression
A. Challenging societal misconceptions and prejudices
B. Creating awareness and fostering empathy

XVI. Coping Strategies during Challenging Times
A. Developing effective coping mechanisms
B. Enhancing resilience through self-care routines

XVII. Maintaining Progress and Celebrating Milestones
A. Monitoring progress and acknowledging achievements
B. Sustaining joy by celebrating personal milestones

XVIII. Summary: Embracing Enduring Joy and Overcoming Depression
A. Recap of strategies to find joy in every moment
B. Importance of persistence in overcoming depression

XIX. FAQs
A. How can I differentiate between sadness and depression?
B. Is joy attainable even in the most challenging circumstances?
C. What are some self-help techniques to alleviate depression symptoms?
D. When should I consider seeking professional help for depression?

Concluding Remarks:
Offering a beacon of hope, the journey towards embracing joy in every moment while overcoming depression is challenging but attainable. By integrating the outlined strategies, individuals can embark on a transformative path towards lasting contentment and well-being.

How do you discover your life purpose? Some crucial points to find the answer to the puzzle of life.

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The most crucial question by Titus Vargis

How do you discover your life purpose? Some crucial points to find the answer to the puzzle.

Life is meaningful only when you have a purpose.

Let me ask you,do you know the life purpose?

If not then follow me through.

I would like to help you find out the purpose of your life.

Consider these important questions. Don’t just read but take a note book and write the answers sincerely.

By doing so you will find you are desperately looking for.


1. What are your passions?
2. What are your values?
3. What are your strengths?
4. What are your weaknesses?
5. What have been your most significant life experiences?
6. What would you do if you had unlimited resources?
7. What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?
8. What would make you feel like you’re not wasting your time?
9. What makes you feel most alive?
10. What would you do if you only had a year left to live?

Now What?!

Now what by Titus Vargis


Go through your answers and find what’s common in your answers.

Contemplating the following questions can give you some insights on your life purpose.

If you’d like to explore these questions further and gain personalized guidance on your journey of self-discovery, book a call with me today.

Let’s work together to unlock your true potential and create a life that aligns with your authentic purpose.

One of the keys to uncovering your life purpose is to identify what you’re passionate about.

What activities do you enjoy doing?
What gets you excited and energized?


Which are the topics that you enjoy learning about?
When do you feel like you are in your zone, your flow, what are you doing?

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Your best life ahead by Titus Vargis



Your values are the principles and beliefs that guide your life. They’re the things that you hold most dear and that you’re willing to fight for.

Your values are extremely important if you want to live a joyful life aligned with who you really are.

The problem is that most often we take them for granted and we don’t even think about our values when making life choices.
Take some time to reflect on what’s most important to you.

What do you believe in?
What causes or issues matter to you?


Which are the most important values that you hold dear?
Here’s a list values to help you get started:

Truth
Freedom
Integrity
Respect
Connection
Compassion
Kindness
Family
Relationships
Loyalty


Your life purpose is likely to align with your values.

Our life choices need to be in line with our values. Otherwise, we would be making it impossible for ourselves to live a joyful life with a sense of inner peace and fulfillment.






Our life choices need to be in line wit

The power of unconditional love and some examples of unconditional love quotes.

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Unconditional love



Love has to be authentic.
Love needs to be unconditional.

To talk about it, it’s very easy. To find such love is really very rare.


It’s quite natural to have some misunderstandings between couples, but it will not break their affection no matter what happens.

To love or to be loved unconditionally is the most precious thing a person can give or can receive from someone.


Select some quotes from below that reflect your feelings and say I love you unconditionally and my love for you is unconditional.



“Find someone who is proud to have you, scared to lose you, fights for you, appreciates you, respects you, cares for you, and loves you unconditionally.”

“If someone wants to be with you, nothing will stop them from doing so. Love doesn’t create excuses.”

“Love is not a temporary feeling or emotion. Emotions and feelings change, sometimes daily. But true unconditional love is everlasting.”

“Unconditional love is loving someone beyond their limits and yours.”

“It is hard to compete with unconditional love.”

“Unconditional love is when someone hurts you, but because you care about that person so much you choose not to hurt them in return.”

“When you start loving unconditionally, you stop judging people soon.”

Think about how your love is. First we need to give unconditional love then only we can expect it from others.

An open letter to the United Nations and an appeal on behalf of Ukraine.

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sorry is not enough by Titus vargis



To,

The United Nations and all countries,

With due respect I want to share some- thing very urgent. As you might know what’s happening in Ukraine.

So you say you are awesome and a peacemaker.



But what you have done speaks louder than your claims.

Look,Ukraine is destroyed and it will soon happen to exist no more.

Look,how you kept on looking at the war and amused yourself.



You thought that it’s not a big deal. You are useless,to speak frankly.

Hey,you could have saved thousands of precious cities and people including children.

Of course you are safe.

You are invincible as you often say.



But I think that’s much exaggeration!!

Hey, you are a coward hiding behind your peace talks and all gimmicks.

When will you awake?

How can we as a hu- man being ignore the war and its impact?

Ukraine is facing the giant and it’s too long




Ukraine is facing the giant and it’s too long now.

Mankind is under attack.

What could the United States and other nations do to stop this war?



At Least for the sake of those pre- cious children and future generations something must be done.

Hey,think like a good human being.

Think not how you can be safe.

Let the peace prevail.



Let the peace prevail. Russia is wicked and it is getting dirtier as time goes by.



Let’s hope for the best,

A citizen of the free

No sorry is enough by Titus Vargis

My experiments with depression and my conclusions: People have stupid reaction towards depression.


What’s more disturb- ing than depression is people’s attitude towards it.

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My experiments by Titus Vargis

Over the years I had been through many ups and downs.

One of the most horrific experience was my struggle with depression.

The thing that hurt me most was people’s utter stupid attitude towards me.



It was as if my life was in jeopardy.

My story has a strong message for those in our society.




Unless we treat this stupid- ity patients with mental illness and issues will not recover fast.

My own first hand experience has taught me what books could never teach me about depression.




Let me briefly share few of the utter stupid attitude of people towards me while I was in depression,

1. That I am abnormal.

2. That I am faking it.

3. I am Lazy.

4. That I am stupid.

5. That I am beyond hope.

6. That I am not worthy of respect.

7. That I am the only per- son on earth to behave like this.


8. That by willpower & efforts I can overcome it.

9. That this is not a big deal. I am the cause of this.

10. That this is not a sickness that needs treatment but a state of mind.

My story by Titus Vargis.

How do you come out of that wrecked life of darkness?
Let me tell you the secret: just once is enough to begin with.

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Coming out is really hard by Titus Vargis



Many times I felt as if I just can’t break the mess I am in.

I was vulnerable. I went through depression for so long.

That was real darkness. Even that word ‘darkness’ is still not enough.

What can one do if he or she is bound? May be by depression, fear or any relationship issues that are there for so long.

I used to read many books on how to get rid of my depression.

There were several factors that brought me out of that cage.

One of them is doctors and another is insights from people who went through depression.

One thing I learnt was in order to break free one needs to take the risk.

One needs to take that first step that seems so impossible.

Just take that step. Focus not on the complete journey of recovery. When we focus on just one thing it gets easy.

Focus on that first step you need to take in order to come out of your darkness.

Often we calculate about the whole journey and it looks so huge that we never take any action.

How did I come out of my depression? It took me one step at a time. The whole journey was thousands of those small steps.

When you take one step towards your recovery journey you feel you can take that next step and then the next step.

Many times we don’t take the journey of recovery because the journey itself feels overwhelming.

You can do it.
You can make it.
No matter how long you were in your darkness.
Still you can break that evil pattern.

It takes one step at a time.

Stop feeling vulnerable.

Unless you move towards that recovery road you will keep crying.

Do it.
Just do it.
I believe you.
You are awesome!

© Titus Vargis
https://loveandmarriagecoach.com

A letter to the broken soul.

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Why are you cast down?

Why are you cast down? Titus Vargis

Hey,
How are you?
This is just a quick reminder. Life is beautiful my dear Soul.
You are an overcomer!!
I know you will overcome this problem too.
Never doubt yourself. You have done it in the past several times.
Do you know, you are my role model? Yes.
It’s true you get discouraged sometimes,tell me who does not?
We are winners.
Tell me more about your victories,I know you have many of them.
Beneath the surface,you are a superhero.
Trust me,I love you.
You are extraordinary. You are awesome.
This too shall pass.
Hey,rise up. You have a long way to go. I am looking forward to hear from you.
Stay strong.
Yours always,
A fellow traveler.

Stop blaming everything in 2023 but make a brutal resolution about your life but how?

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Life is an adventure but I don’t know how can I save my life?

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Life is the real gold by Titus Vargis

Relevant information about getting the dream life you wish for:

1. Luck is non existent


2. Belief is the most crucial currency of a blessed life.


3. There are different perspectives about everything in life. Choose the best one.


4. Think about your biases. On which bias are you looking on?


5. We get angry when we are not at peace with our Past.


6. Asking forgiveness makes you divine.


7. It takes fear and love both to get moving in any relationship. Fear has it’s purpose.


8. No one can make you angry without your consent.


9. No one can make you happy without your permission.

©Titus Vargis,

https://loveandmarriagecoach.com

what to do when your relationship is at breaking point?

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When life throws a lemon,don’t get bitter but act smart for your own sake.

Life cycle by Titus Vargis.

There are times in our life and relationship that wreck us to the core. What we do about it decides where we end up?

My own life experiences has wrecked me many times. I was almost broke to the point of giving up my life.

No one in my life took interest in my life but escalated my pain.

I had to take decision. I was determined not to give up any more.

Life became my teacher. I tried all my resources and friends to find out what must be done to get out of this narrow place.

Here are few crucial steps that we can take when our relationship is at the breaking point.

Let me start,

1. Take full responsibility if you’re at fault

One important thing is to not act like children. You must be authentic. You need to take full responsibility if you know you are at fault.


2. Extend compassion and care to the person you hurt

Be human. Be compassionate. Learn to extend compassion. You get what you give.

3. Give your partner the opportunity to win your trust back



4. Practice radical transparency

Be absolutely transparent. Don’t play games. Be serious enough. You can’t destroy what you built for many years.



5. Consult with a professional



6. Don’t let your world revolve around your partner



7. Learn to compromise

Life is not always mathematics. Life requires compromises. You can’t be a god on earth. You need to accommodate the other.



8. Spend time with friends outside of your relationship.

Don’t put all eggs in one basket.



9. Engage in affectionate physical contact



10. Use skilled communication

Be careful how you communicate. You might be hurting the other person by the way you talk.



11. Speak from your heart

Listen to your heart. Speak from your heart.



12. Actively listen

Practice listening. Relationships require active listening. Unless we listen,we do a one man show.



13. Healthy conflict resolution strategies

You must find conflict resolution strategies. For that you must learn from the experts. You must do it.



14. Get to the root cause

Find out the root causes of your chaos.



15. Follow your gut feelings

Your gut knows what is best for you.

Dear traveler on the journey called life, let me share something.

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You are not your thoughts tell you.

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Hey warrior by Titus Vargis.

Dear traveler,

I am glad to meet you and say something to you.

I believe we all have different names to comment on our struggles on this journey. But I think that we all have the same struggles.

We might be poor or rich. We might be less confident or more.

We might be from countries that are called developed or not so.

We might be thinking we are alone. We think we are here but no one knows us.

Yet,we can’t blame anyone. We are still warriors. We need someone like a mirror that says so. This is the thing we lack. We have many doomsayers. We have many who discourage us.

Yet we are conquerors. We are not aware. The main secret is this: we must not quit.

Sooner or later,we win. We get to the destination. We are really not alone. It’s our mind that tells us that we are alone. Like our mind being programmed .

Share with someone what you go through. Find someone. No one is perfect. We are still traveling.

It’s our ego that stops us from association. It’s our prejudices. It’s our culture. You know what? If we overcome these,we will win together.

Why not? Ask yourself. Ask the universe. Ask the roads. Here,we are not losers.

Stand up. Walk again. Move a bit if you can’t run.

Don’t stop. Let’s start again. Together. Give me your hand. Hold me and let’s run.

I believe in you. Our destiny calls us. Thank you.

Yours brother,
A traveler.

What God really really wants?

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The monumental question of our existence by Titus Vargis.

The monumental question mankind has been struggling with.



The most crucial question in the World is this: what God wants?

The strength of the question is not in the ‘what’ but in GOD.

Humankind has been asking this question from ages.

The man in his search for meaning and significance realised that no one can give him meaning and significance on this planet but GOD.

The question implies that there is a GOD. Our existence demands our significance.

We as a human being are looking for the reasons behind our existence.

The GOD factor helps us to face the uncertainties of this planet.



Gods and the question by Titus Vargis.

We don’t find our meaning and significance in our money or people. People are not the ones we are looking for our monumental question.

We look to GOD for our monumental question. We know that the one who brought us into this planet is GOD himself.

For centuries mankind has founded religions and practices that try to give his soul the answers.

What God wants? How can we answer this question?

We must go through the oceans of the Holy Books and the story tellers.

We have found that God wants our heart,body,money,soul and so on.

But does this confirm our answers?

Are we sure about this?

If God wants bla bla bla bla bla….then why God is still God sitting somewhere and doing nothing…?

The truth that we search for is this,

GOD HAS EVERYTHING. GOD IS LARGER THAN EVERYTHING.

GOD IS SO FULL OF EVERYTHING THAT YOU NEED NOT GIVE HIM ANYTHING.

MOREOVER THE MOST MONUMENTAL TRUTH IS THIS: GOD DID NOT ASK THIS QUESTION.

IT WAS NOT THE QUESTION THAT GOD ASKED. GOD WANTS NOTHING. GOD OWNS THE MILKYWAY AND THE STARS. THE UNIVERSE BELONGS TO HIM.

once you look onto this truth, you are changed forever. God is not looking for something. God cares nothing about what you give to Him.

It’s the so called religion and priests that demand everything in the name of God. So that they get everything in the name of God.

The Power behind the religion is putting up lots of requirements to the people. Unless you put impossible requirements people won’t come to you for help.



The monumental answer by Titus Vargis.Photo by Adnan Khan on Unsplash

This creates a cycle of exploitation. This way people can be effectively exploited. We see for centuries mankind has been duped.

Even the so called good religions are exploiting in the name of their gods.

Let’s examine these answers. Let’s find the exploitation and demand answers from the so called keepers of gods.

© Titus Vargis

https://loveandmarriagecoach.com

7 things I hate in my relationship and they frustrate me : what women should not do in a relationship?

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Giving up is easy but never give up
Not giving up by any means



There are many reasons for my frustrations in life.



They really are numerous but some of them are more recurring.

Let me share a few of them.

I believe these things will help women to realize what frustrates a man in a relationship.

1. Feelings overtaking the sensibility.

2. Inability to understand what makes me angry.

3. Always expecting me to understand her but not taking efforts to understand me.

4. Lack of gratitude

5. Complaining always.

6. Criticizing my character when it should have been my wrong behavior.

7.Childish behavior.

Love and Relationship by Titus Vargis.

Giving up is Okay and 10 other uncommon perspectives on living your life.

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Life is an adventure.

Life is an adventure by Titus Vargis

1. People are everywhere.You need to learn to interact with them.


2. Problems are part of association. As long as we are here on this planet,we will get hurt some way or the other. Accept this.


3. Learn to deal with the weirdness of the masses.


4. Family is the only shelter available here on this Earth. Treat them with utmost importance.


5. No matter what, learn to ask forgiveness from your family. Accept that you made the mistake if you have made it.


6. Loneliness is the most cruel reality of our life on the planet. Learn to embrace it.


7. Develop some habits. It can be anything that you find joy. Immerse yourself into it. It heals your body and soul.


8. You are a soul with a body. Looking after your soul is more important than your body. Learn to feed your soul.


9. Associate with some humans. Find someone who can accompany you. Find your partner.


10.Giving up is okay. Find something new. Keep seeking. No one can tell you what you must do.


11. Life is an adventure. Learn more and more. Unlearn something that you have learnt in the past which serves nothing.

©Titus Vargis
https://loveandmarriagecoach.com

TOP MOST BIBLE VERSES ABOUT NOT GIVING UP…EVEN IN THE HARDEST TIMES

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Introduction

Hey my friend,giving up is easy. But I don’t want you to give up.
Well,here are few Bible verses about not giving up.

  • 2 Chronicles 15:7 But as for you, be strong and do not give up, for your work will be rewarded. I Corinthians 15:58 Therefore, my beloved brothers, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that in the Lord your labor is not in vain

Never give up
I will not give up

  • “But do not forget this one thing, dear friends: With the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day. The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.” – 2 Peter 3:8-9 (NIV)
  • “Though he may stumble, he will not fall, for the LORD upholds him with His hand.” – Psalm 37:24 (NIV)
  • “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” – Galatians 6:9 (NIV)
  • “He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” – Isaiah 40:29-31 (NIV)
  • “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” – Isaiah 41:10 (NIV)

Giving up is easy but never give up

Not giving up by any means

  • “But do not forget this one thing, dear friends: With the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day. The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.” – 2 Peter 3:8-9 (NIV)
  • The Lord Holds Us in His Hands

“Though he may stumble, he will not fall, for the LORD upholds him with His hand.” – Psalm 37:24 (NIV)

  • There’s a Harvest for Those Who Don’t Give Up

“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” – Galatians 6:9 (NIV)

  • “He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” – Isaiah 40:29-31 (NIV)
  • God Is With You

“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” – Isaiah 41:10 (NIV)

This verse reminds us that ultimately God’s plans for us are good, no matter what emotions they make us feel in the moment.

  • His Grace Is Sufficient

“But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” – 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 (NIV)

HOW CAN I SAVE MY RELATIONSHIP IN 30 SECONDS?

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Here I will show you how can I save my relationship in 30 seconds.

How can I save my relationship in 30 seconds
Saving relationship

Well its very easy. I will give you exact steps to follow so that you can achieve your goal.

Let me share steps to achieve youe goal,

1.Communicate effectively

communication is essential to achieve success in relationship. one must learn to express oneself in a relationship. it takes efforts to communicate effectively. do your best to communicate with your partner.

2.Commitment

learning to be effective in relationship requires commitment. you must put all your efforts into your relationship. it should not be half hearted efforts.

3.Show appreciation

appreciation is the oxygen for any good relationship. when you see your partner doing some things effectively and sincerely then dont forget to tell them words of appreciation.

4.Show affection

showing affection is key to achieve success in relationship. express love with your partner, this will improve your relationship.

5.Follow forgiveness

love without forgiveness is fake. when you truly love somebody you are going to see them make mistakes. thats part of life. forgiveness plays an important role in any good relationship. when we forgive someone then we get value from that person. we show them that they are valuable to us.

6.Take responsibility

relationship is based on taking our responsibility. when we are committed to taking responsibility our relationship gets better.

7.Empathy

Empathy is essential part of any good relationship.

8.Time for each other

Taking time for each other is very much important.

9.Patience

Let not impatience destroy your relationship.

How to increase love in a relationship?

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There are different ways to increase love in a relationship. some of them are as follows,

  1. Commitment

In any relationship,commitment is very important. one must be committed to the relationship.without commitment its impossible to move forward.

02. Transparency

this is also crucial.one must be transparent enough. without it no lasting relationship can take place.
sincerity this gives strength to the relationship.

03. Maturity

This is very important. One must be willing to act as a mature adult. this means willing to act as a grown up.

04. Forgiving

This is important. Forgiveness is the glue of relationship. This is the divine element of a relationship.

05. Communication

This enhances love in a relationship. This makes the relationships alive. Without this relationship is dead.

What does it take to win your love for me?

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What does it take to win your love for me? Asking the most crucial question of our relationship.

The main thing is this
The essential things in a relationship

Did you know what breaks relationships very often?

Let me tell you. It is not incompatibility. It’s not behavior. It’s not looks. Not perfection.

It’s simply this: asking your partner each day what does it take to win your love for me today?

Unfortunately,this crucial question is usually asked at the beginning of our relationship.

Later,unknowingly we overlook it. This is the biggest mistake we all make.We begin to undermine the person’s changing nature.

You see,we are evolving with time. Each of us are changing.The person I was ten days or ten years ago is not the same.Even after 10 days I will not remain the same.

We are constantly changing.
It’s said that you can’t step into a river twice.What does that imply?

It implies that our needs keep on changing as time passes by.Today we need something different from yesterday.

What we need today is not what we needed earlier.

Each day we need to ask our partners what their present needs or expectations are.

Once we know that we are better at providing the partner what he or she needs.

Unless we ask this on a regular basis we will be assuming the needs of our partners.Thereby we won’t receive the appreciation that we are looking for.

Moreover we won’t be satisfying our partners by providing that they don’t really need at this moment.

There are different ways to ask this question,like

what is it that you are expecting from me today?

Or what is it that you want me to do for you today?

What necessary things I need to do for you that will meet your needs today?

There is power in this approach.

Let me tell you briefly why asking this question matters,

First of all it gives your partner a sense of significance.

Second, it implies that you are genuinely interested in helping the partner.

Thirdly,it makes it easier for you to find out what can be done now that can improve the life of your partner without hurting him or her.

We are meant to satisfy the person we are interacting with. The more we make others happy the more our relationships get better.

But how can we make others happy unless we ask them what they need?

It’s also significant to note that here your attitude matters most. Words must correlate with genuine attitude.

Once we are getting used to asking this question we will find that we are better at providing what our partner is expecting from us.

It’s not through assumptions that we get success in life or relationships.

But through deliberate efforts and sincerity.
Best wishes,
©Titus Vargis

https://loveandmarriagecoach.com

5 important things as a man I wish I got from my relationship!!

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Understanding the heart of a man is essential to meet his real needs.

The essential expectations by Titus Vargis.

Understanding the basics of any good relationship is not easy.

You have to let go of your own idea and ask the other person.

It is the foundation on which any great relationship is being built.

Let me share a few significant needs as a man in my relationship,

01. First Love


This is the thing that moves us. As men we look for that. We want our partners to have that same old spark. We can sense it. We yearn for that. Too often,it is missing.

02. A sense of wonder

As men,we look for a sense of wonder. We want to see that we are still heroes as we were at first sight. How often,we don’t get that. We love to see that we are still the number one in our relationships.

03. Not taken for granted

As men we don’t look for many bigger things. Basically we look for our worth. Are we still worthy or are we taken for granted? Well,we can sense it very easily that we are valued or taken for granted. We love to outperform ourselves but first we want to know that we are valued in our relationships.

04. A sense of gratitude

We look for gratitude. Gratitude in the sense of behavior or attitude. When men are given sufficient gratitude we would like to outperform ourselves. It’s the magic that propels us.

05. Understanding our silence

As men we are not always like women. We go into solitude. We go there to think and plan our lives. We don’t want to be misunderstood. When women respect our solitude we usually are ready to give what we are expected to.

©Titus Vargis
https://loveandmarriagecoach.com

On 5 reasons why I like my relationship in spite of 100 reasons to quit!

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There ain’t no heaven on earth frankly speaking.

On why I choose to not quit by Titus Vargis




Well the title itself says it all. We are all sum total of our imperfections and strengths. No one is from above.
We can do two things,either we can look at good things or imperfections in our lives and relationships.

Both views have an immense impact on the quality of our lives and relationships.

Either we will look to good things and focus only on it. Thereby lead a great life. The other option is looking for imperfections and getting doomed.

We actually have no real choice here on earth. We have to embrace the imperfections no matter what.

Well,the choice is up to you and me.
Let me share my five reasons on why I appreciate my relationship,

01. Life is short to keep on looking for perfect relationships. Really you and I can’t keep on moving from one relationship to another. Each of us have immense imperfections. It’s wise to stick to the one who shares your life values and loves you.



02. Loneliness is the most common sickness that leads to death. I don’t want to live alone and get lost in life. I choose to stay in my relationship.



03. We both have different strengths and we both meet the needs of each other. That’s why I stay in my relationship.



04. My relationship gives me a sense of significance. I stay in my relationship because it gives me a meaning in life.



05. I have seen many relationships getting broken around. I don’t want to lose my opportunities in life. I stay and know that life is an adventure filled with lots of happiness and surprises.

©Titus Vargis, PhD
https://loveandmarriagecoach.com

Most crucial facts about your life and relationship

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There are no shortcuts to fulfilling life.

We are a postmodern generation. We have all the comforts which the previous generation did not have.

The basics of life by Titus Vargis

We are a generation of no scarcity. 

Everything is available for us at the time we want it. The downside of this abundance is our lack of thinking about others. We seldom think about giving,but getting.

Times we live in by Titus Vargis

As a matter of fact we are the most selfish generation of all time.

It’s difficult for us to understand that giving is the only way for getting things in life.

What are the implementations of this? Let me share some important aspects which will bring drastic transformation in our relationships,

01. We get what we give. Let’s get it right.We get respect by first giving respect. Respect is not demanded. We must learn to give respect to our partner no matter what.

BEGIN THE ADVENTURE WITH US.
Heavenly relationships by Titus Vargis

02. Love is not a product that we can get by money,or power. Love is not dependent on our education or status. We must first give love in order to get it.

03. Just as accidents on roads are part of driving on the road, mistakes are part of being human It’s hard to expect perfection from a being that is bound to make mistakes because we are not robots. Accept mistakes as mistakes. Treat it like an accident. No one drives just to get into any accident. It happens. Unless we treat weakness as an integral part of our existence we would kill each other and harbor grudges.

04. In life 5 plus 5 is not always 10. What I mean is that you cannot expect people to act logically each time. We are also emotional beings. We do things sometimes out of our feelings of fear or anger. We may go wrong sometimes. It happens. Understand that life is not predictable. Things go wrong in spite of our careful calculations.

The game of life by Titus Vargis

05. Every day is a golden opportunity to do something different. No one is chained to act as if life is meaningless. Why not try a different approach? Why not try talking in a fair way? Why not make some other plans if plan A has gone wrong? Life is an adventure. Why don’t we change the patterns that make our relationship dull or boring? 

©Titus Vargis.

https://loveandmarriagecoach.com

51 Power words for raising smart kids.

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It takes something more to raise a smart child,what are they?

Power words to use by Titus Vargis.




Kids are spontaneous and they find real happiness in the simple pleasures of life.

They get thrilled and enjoy little things like when they see a small bird, jump over dirty puddles, and even when they get to have their favorite ice creams.

They also like us go through the occasional blues,feel sad and be depressed too.

Power words can instill smart skills in kids to face life smartly.

These power words for kids are a great addition to a child’s vocabulary. These vocabulary words for kids really help them learn how to be encouraging, kind and nurturing.



It creates an encouraging and nurturing environment, which is helpful for their well-being and growth.

Here is a list of Power words for kids to help them build a strong and encouraging vocabulary.


1.Awesome
2.Trustful
3.Confident
4.Leader
5.Passionate
6.Young
7.Motivating
8.Adaptable
9.Endearing
10.Adventurous
11.Free
12.Persuasive
13.Practical
14.Decisive
15.Fan
16.Steady
17.Understanding
18.Successful
19.Accomplished
20.Straight
21.Enterprising
22.Witty
23.Forward
24.Warm
25.Courteous
26.Poetic
27.Happy
28.Brave
29.Consistent
30.Stunning
31.Detailed
32.Focused
33.Particular
34.Fervent
35.Quick
36.Fast
37.Talented
38.Nurturing
39.Distinguished
40.Eager
41.Inventor
42.Honest
43.Fascinating
44.Authentic
45.Proud
46.Balanced
47.Wondrous
48.Brilliant
49.Skilled
50.Special
51.Worthy

Raising a smart child by Titus Vargis.

© Titus Vargis

https://loveandmarriagecoach.com

A story from Titus Vargis,PhD on Medium

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Read this story from Titus Vargis,PhD on Medium: https://titusvargis.medium.com/hey-my-friend-are-you-looking-for-relationship-transformation-and-refreshing-104d3fcf8c1b

Our pleasure to help you by Titus Vargis.

You are not alone. We are here to help you as you go through rough times in your life and relationship.

Come and see what great things can happen when you believe.

We are here to make you succeed.

Yes,you can find joy again.

© Titus Vargis.

7 things my relationship breakdown taught me that no coach can teach.

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What Life teaches you no one can teach on this planet.

Life as an ultimate relationship coach by Titus Vargis

Over the course of my relationship I had to learn many things.

As with everything else, in order for a relationship to work better I had to relearn and unlearn many many essential things.

Unfortunately,my relationship breakdown brought me to the walls.

I had to change myself and my way of dealing. Some of the important lessons that I learnt are as follows,


01.No one can fulfill you apart from yourself. Fulfilled life happens when you make efforts on yourself. No one can do it for you.


02.You are responsible for your own wellbeing. Others cannot be responsible for your well-being. They can only support you to some extent.

Relationship by choice by Titus Vargis


03.Your partner can’t be your savior by any chance. It’s suicidal to exalt anyone to meet all your needs.
Don’t expect even gods to solve your personal chaos. You must get up and keep yourself straight.

04.Others are not obliged to clean up your mess. You need to act mature and take up the responsibility.


05.It’s not a relationship that brings blessings but your own attitude. Everything depends upon your perspective.


06.What you give will ultimately return to you. This law seems to apply to all things on this planet.

There are no shortcuts by Titus Vargis


07.There is no overnight birth of a beautiful life and relationship. Don’t expect to eat apples overnight when you have not waited for a good amount of time. Nothing happens overnight.

© Titus Vargis

Understanding narcissistic females and 3 very easy ways to deal with them.

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You don’t have to be a victim anymore,take control of your life now.

You are not the victim anymore by Titus Vargis.

The fault in our relationship by Titus Vargis


There is a huge rise in abusive females in our world.
It’s not reported by most men out of shame.

Our Society likes to think it’s the female who’s always the weak,so the equation goes like this:

Abusive relationships = men at fault.

The reason behind this equation is that men are stronger than women.

This is the most fallacious misconception. It’s not the truth.
In Fact this is the real culprit. The real cause of marital breakdown.


In any case of reporting to the police,there is bias at work in the system.The police just ignore men and never listen to what men want to say.


Most of the time it won’t be accepted by society that any woman can abuse a man.


This is gross inhuman practice that’s prevalent in many so called developed countries.

Let me put in following points in order to explore these personality:

1) Consider the ads and movies, where it’s common to see women belittling men, even many men are projected there as stupid, foolish.

2) Society, especially narcissistic ones, are training girls and women to abuse men in their lives be it indirectly. The so-called feminist movements add fuel to it.

3) Society as a whole is narrating a different mode of conduct with regards to men.
It’s brainwashing to the point of hating men no matter what.

4) Narcissistic women teach others to refuse to respect any boundaries set by society and men.

There must be a way by Titus Vargis



5) Narcissists play the victim card.
Of course they cry,scream and create drama. They know very well how to influence people a lot so that they will believe in their account.

6) Narcissistic women can’t take any form of constructive feedback.

7) Narcissists lack empathy.
They have no feelings for men! They love a little and hate you at the same time.

8) Narcissists withhold sex to punish men.

9) Narcissists are materialistic.
They will say things like,
you take me out, you give me what I want when I want it.


10.Narcissistic values men based on his financial capabilities.

The blackmail by Titus Vargis




PART B.HOW TO MANAGE A NARCISSISTIC PARTNER?

1.Don’t take the bait.

They are irrational, far from reality. Whatever comes from them is not rational.
Completely ignore them. when they want you to react,just leave the room.

2. When they start to play with your feelings just tell them,

“You are right with your emotions just as I am.”

3.They struggle with their internal chaos and their life shows just the same.
Don’t allow them to dictate your life. Take control of your life.

© Titus Vargis