Recharge Life Now
Unwind yourself now
Stop this
hey, it’s okay
to cry.
You are a
man, so what!?
stop being
lonely.
find someone
some solace.
You are
significant.
You are a
warrior and
a human.
Share your
burdens
pour out
your heart
you need
someone.
We all
are little less
than
heavenly.
stop carrying
all by
yourself.
So what?
You are
a man,
and a human
too.
It’s okay
to not be
Okay.
© Titus vargis
Happiness awaits just around the corner. Learn how to escape the grip of depression and find the joy and fulfillment you deserve in your life.
Navigating the treacherous waters of life, we occasionally find ourselves in the midst of a storm, where the waves of betrayal, loneliness, and despair threaten to sink our ship of sanity.
It’s a place I found myself not too long ago – drowning in the chaos of depression, ensnared by the chains of isolation.
Yet, here I am today, sharing my journey from the brink of absolute insanity to a place of renewed hope and serenity.
It’s a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the transformative power of understanding, patience, and self-care.
How I Keep Myself Sane in Insanity
My path to reclaiming my sanity was far from straightforward. It was a journey marked by trials that tested every fiber of my being. Yet, these hardships presented an opportunity for profound personal growth.
When The World Turned Its Back
My descent into darkness began with personal betrayals—friends who vanished when shadows loomed, a spouse overwhelmed by the specter of my mental illness, and siblings whose trust seemed like a foreign concept.
The pain of these betrayals was magnified by a crippling financial instability. It felt as though I was trapped in a never-ending cycle of despair, with no one to turn to for support.
Finding Solace in Solitude
In the depths of my isolation, I discovered the healing power of solitude. It was in these moments of alone, untethered from the expectations and judgments of those around me, that I began to see glimmers of light piercing through the darkness.
Meditation became a sanctuary, a realm where I could seek peace amidst the turmoil. Though my initial attempts felt fruitless, persistence revealed the transformative potential of mindfulness and self-reflection.
Books: The Beacons of Hope
Turning to literature, I searched for wisdom in the experiences of others. While each page didn’t hold a miraculous cure, the collective insights offered a lantern to guide me through my darkest days.
It was a reminder that I wasn’t alone in my struggles, that others too had navigated the treacherous paths of mental illness and emerged stronger on the other side.
How Can Anyone Do It?
My story, though unique in its details, shares universal themes with the experiences of countless others.
Here, I offer suggestions drawn from my journey, hoping they might light the way for someone else enduring the storm.
Embrace The Journey
Recovery is not a destination but a journey. It requires patience, forgiveness (both of yourself and others), and an unwavering commitment to self-discovery. Understand that setbacks are not failures but stepping stones towards healing.
Cultivate Meaningful Connections
Though my path was often solitary, the moments I cherished the most were those shared with individuals who genuinely cared.
Opening your heart to trusted friends, family members, or professionals can provide the strength needed to persevere. Remember, vulnerability is not a weakness but a courageous step towards recovery.
Seek Professional Help
There’s a profound strength in acknowledging the need for help beyond our personal networks.
Mental health professionals offer invaluable guidance, helping us to navigate our emotions and challenges in a structured, supportive environment.
Rediscover Your Passions
In the throes of my depression, life’s colors had faded to grey.
Yet, as I reconnected with forgotten hobbies and interests, I found myself imbued with a renewed sense of purpose and joy. Allow yourself the freedom to explore new activities or rekindle old passions.
Conclusion
The road from the depths of despair to the peaks of emotional wellness is long, winding, and uniquely personal. Yet, it’s a journey worth embarking on.
My experiences, though fraught with pain and loneliness, ultimately led me to a place of greater understanding, empathy, and resilience.
To anyone walking this path, know that you are not alone, and that with time, support, and self-care, it is possible to reclaim your sanity and rediscover the beauty of life.
Let us be kind to ourselves and one another, for in kindness, we find our shared humanity and the strength to overcome even the most daunting of challenges.
Dear Reader,
I have something important to share with you – a personal struggle that many may relate to. This isn’t your average social media post; it’s raw and emotional. I want you to understand that despite appearances, my life isn’t perfect. I may write inspirational posts and showcase a seemingly ideal existence, but behind the scenes, I battle with my own demons. Loneliness is my constant companion, despite having a loving family and engaging in community service. The lack of empathy from those closest to me leaves me feeling isolated. I do my best to help others, but often feel used and discarded in return. This constant cycle of selfishness is disheartening.
## The Unseen Battle
I am not the life of the party; I prefer solitude. My quiet demeanor shouldn’t be mistaken for misanthropy – I simply find solace in my own company. It’s disconcerting that society often favors extroverts over introverts like myself. I gravitate towards individuals who exhibit empathy and open-mindedness, as self-absorption is a trait that I struggle to tolerate. Finding balance in a world that values social prowess can be challenging, causing me to question my self-worth. My perfectionist tendencies only exacerbate my internal conflicts.
In my darker moments, when the world feels overwhelming, I retreat into my fortress of solitude. It’s there, in the silence, that I confront the heart of my loneliness. It’s not the absence of people that haunts me but the absence of meaningful connections. Despite being surrounded by a crowd, the void within grows, feeding on fleeting interactions and superficial exchanges.
## Finding Respite
To combat my feelings of isolation, I engage in various therapeutic activities. Music has a profound effect on my well-being, providing a sense of solace when words fail me. Journaling serves as an outlet for my unfiltered thoughts, allowing me to untangle the complexities of my emotions. Immersing myself in nature, reading books, and practicing mindfulness techniques like meditation also offer respite from the chaos of everyday life.
These actions are my lifelines, pulling me back from the edge of despair. They allow me to breathe, to find peace in the storm. But they are not cure-alls. My journey towards healing is ongoing, marked by small victories and inevitable setbacks.
## A Shared Struggle
If my words resonate with you, know that you are not alone in your struggles. There are countless individuals grappling with similar challenges, searching for a path towards healing. By sharing my story, I hope to offer solace to those who feel lost in their own battles. Let me know how my open letter has touched you, as your feedback is invaluable in this journey of self-discovery and growth.
Remember, strength lies in resilience. Do not allow yourself to remain stagnant in despair. Seek out genuine connections and surround yourself with like-minded souls who uplift and support you. Together, we can navigate the treacherous terrain of loneliness and emerge stronger on the other side.
With resilience and hope,
Titus Vargis
Life, in its intricacy, presents us with a multitude of experiences—some bitter, some sweet, and many that linger somewhere in-between.
In moments of profound despair or overwhelming challenges, the idea of just letting go and succumbing to the darkness might fleetingly cross our minds.
Yet, here I am, choosing to embrace the light, the pain, the fear, and every hue of life in between. Let’s delve into the whys and wherefores.
Embracing Life Over Fear and Pain
Life hasn’t always been kind. Like many, I’ve faced my share of moments when everything seemed insurmountable.
But choosing life over the temptation of giving up has been my silent rebellion against the odds.
Life Purpose
I believe we’re all here for a reason. For me, realizing that I have unfulfilled purposes acts as a beacon in my darkest hours.’s not just about big achievements but about small, everyday victories and the joy brought.
A Legacy for My Children
My children are my heart walking outside my body.
The thought of leaving them prematurely, of not being there to see them grow, learn, and face life’s myriad challenges and joys, weighs heavily on me.
They are a significant part of why I choose to weather life’s storms.
Beyond Self
It’s easy to become ensnared in our web of miseries, to dwell on what ails us. Yet, life isn’t just about me.
It extends to the people I love and care about—their needs, their hopes, and their well-being. Shifting the focus from myself to them often sheds light on the bigger picture.
The Privilege of Life
Choosing to live, especially in the thick of turmoil, is no small feat. It is a declaration that despite life’s lows, its highs are worth striving for.
Life Is a Fortune
Waking up each day is a privilege denied to many. This realization pushes me to see beyond my current suffering, to value life’s gift, and make the most out of it, no matter the obstacles.
Lessons from the Past
Reflecting on my journey, I recognize the strength I’ve garnered from overcoming past adversities.
Giving up now would disregard the resilience I’ve built up. It would mean letting a few challenging experiences overshadow numerous good ones.
The Courage to Face Challenges
Life demands courage and tenacity. It’s about standing up after every fall, ready to face the world anew.
My resolve to live is also a commitment to not succumb to fear, to not let challenges define my existence.
Family Ties
The family is an anchor during stormy times. Their unconditional love and support stand as pillars, compelling me to forge ahead.
Obligation to My Parents
Watching my parents age has reinforced my resolve to live fully. They’ve sacrificed much for my well-being; now, as they tread into their twilight years, my presence, love, and support are ways to repay their boundless love.
Creating Memories
Life is fleeting, and each moment is a memory in the making.
Choosing to live is choosing to create memories—joyous ones that define and enrich the tapestry of our shared existence.
Choosing life, in essence, is a testament to the undying hope that whispers softly, urging us to give life another chance, to see beyond the pain and the fears, and to treasure the myriad moments that make life worth embracing.
It is a conscious decision to acknowledge life’s shadows but to revel in its light, to seek purpose, to cherish loved ones, and to embrace the privilege of existence wholeheartedly.
Let’s choose to live, not just exist. Because every breath is a story waiting to be told, and I’ve got chapters yet unwritten.
© Titus vargis
Don’t give up Now.
As a highly sensitive person, I get easily hurt. My spouse, on the other hand, expresses herself candidly without filters, leading to disappointment and frustration.
At times, her use of harsh words causes me pain. A recent blog post has significantly altered my outlook on life.
The key takeaway: don’t rely on others for encouragement; empower yourself.
This shift in perspective has transformed the way I think. Instead of waiting for my spouse to seek forgiveness, I now understand that self-encouragement is crucial.
It’s essential to take ownership of our emotions and actions, recognizing that everyone is facing their battles.
A transformative step is liberating oneself from the expectation of external salvation.
I implement positive affirmations through wall stickers, acknowledging the effort required for personal growth and well-being.
I urge readers not to give up prematurely and to consider revisiting old hobbies and incorporating activities like playing with pets, engaging with children in games, and participating in soul-enriching endeavors.
Reading, shopping, spending time with friends, and prayer are meaningful practices that should not be underestimated.
By persisting through stress and disappointment, one can progress in life and relationships.
The onus lies on oneself to seek encouragement, as it is intrinsic to personal development.
By embracing this responsibility, individuals can move forward and achieve remarkable feats.
Remember, happiness is within reach. Embrace your journey with determination and positivity.
Trust in your capacity and resilience, and remarkable accomplishments await you.
Warm regards,
Titus Vargis
Love and Marriage Coach
https://loveandmarriagecoach.com
How do you deal with Loneliness?
I was sick last night. Everyone was asleep. I was shivering. I couldn’t manage with a little medicine.
I realized I needed to take someone’s help. I couldn’t handle the shivering. Still then I changed my mind. I didn’t wake up others. As they all were in deep sleep.
I am like that. I manage most of the time.
This time it was going out of control. I know it’s getting harder.
That day I learnt the important lessons of life and relationships.
Quickly, I found a notebook and wrote this. Later the next day.
The main thing is this: What do we really really need, deep down? Especially in times of struggling and sickness.
What does it take to help someone else who is also traveling on this great journey of life?
Put in place of someone who is lonely, sick, tired, poor, fighting for survival, relationship battles, intense pain.
What will bring solace? Peace? Connection? Significance? Meaning?
Let me share a few things,
1. Being there with the person.
2. Smiling and letting them know he is not alone.
3. Looking at him. Looking into his eyes closely.
4. Showing him that at this time he is the most important person on this planet earth.
5. Less words but more affection and sympathy.
6. Putting your legs in his shoes. Empathy.
7. Reading between the lines.
8. Holding his hands and making him feel special. Touching signifies value.
9. Spend at least 40 minutes with him. Just be there. Your presence is healing to him.
Is it too much?! No. You will be remembered forever. Try it.
Once you are in pain, struggling you will need someone else.
Meanwhile, why can’t you be a light to the ones who are in darkness.
Who knows, you might be the only one who lights up his darkness. Is this silly?!
No!! 10000 times, no.
©Titus vargis.
Introduction
Hey my friend,giving up is easy. But I don’t want you to give up.
Well,here are few Bible verses about not giving up.
Not giving up by any means
“Though he may stumble, he will not fall, for the LORD upholds him with His hand.” – Psalm 37:24 (NIV)
“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” – Galatians 6:9 (NIV)
“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” – Isaiah 41:10 (NIV)
This verse reminds us that ultimately God’s plans for us are good, no matter what emotions they make us feel in the moment.
“But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” – 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 (NIV)
The power of a more sensible approach towards others even when you don’t want to help others.
Read this story from Titus Vargis,PhD on Medium: https://titusvargis.medium.com/are-you-asking-the-right-questions-to-others-alert-doing-so-can-forever-change-their-destiny-b9a154ee1de7
Life is hard sometimes and you can’t lose your precious life but how?
How my Suicidal tendencies went Away?
It’s not easy. It’s monumental.
It’s not a sickness that you take a pill and it goes away.
Let me come to the point,to say it in short.
First things first,
1. Suicidal thoughts are born out of long term sufferings of stress & harsh realities of life.
2. It’s not possible to get out of it by forcing one’s thoughts alone. No one can get out of it like that. It is ridiculous!
No,it does not work that way. You are Outrightly wrong. It’s not a physical sickness just like cough and cold.
3.Suicidal tendencies are out of one’s control. Understand this. No one wants to live like that.It’s a living hell. One can’t escape by himself.
4. Suicidal thoughts can develop over a period of time while being in total failure, death of a loved one, terrible loss in life or business,terminal sickness & sufferings.
5. The person who is affected by it already has done everything to come out of it but he’s helpless. This is the number one truth. He is really really helpless,and that’s the reason he’s thinking of ending his life.
Now,let me share my experience:
Suicidal thoughts were not in me until my father was alive. But once he had passed away I went into a stage of utter despondency.
I was the eldest son and I had a younger brother. We were still studying in schools. My mother had no job. Financially we were struggling.
During this period,I developed abnormal fears, including fear of people,fear of open spaces.
This created total imbalance in our family. This deeply affected my wellbeing.
As an eldest Son, I had the responsibility to look after my mother and brother.
Here I was in utter darkness & I felt I was not living upto my family’s expectations. I was unable to stay normal and earn a living.
I developed serious depression & went to consult the doctor. Doctor prescribed some medicines for me. I wanted to come out of this mess.
Medication really helped me. Previously I could not sleep at night but now I was sleeping well. My fears subsided to an extent and I attempted to start living my normal life once again.
Financially I had nothing to support my family so that I can feel proud about myself. Feelings of worthlessness increased my depression.I felt I was useless. I found no hope.
I developed a whole range of depressive thinking, different fears, and anger.
I attempted suicide many times. I did not see any point in living. I had tried all ways to get rid of depression. Medicines,Yoga, Positive talk, Exercises.
Nothing brought any lasting solution. Staying positive did not help.Nothing worked.Absolutely.
Medicines did not cure my suicidal tendencies. I was fed up with my life. I did not want to live as a burden to others.
Deep down my heart I wanted to live and earn lots of money. It didn’t happen. No one saved me.
My mother was a praying woman. She kept on praying for my recovery. She prayed to Jesus. Her prayers brought my answers. My life began to change.
My plans of suicide did not work. I must say I am alive because of Jesus Christ.
It was all because of my Heavenly Father. He just would not let me commit suicide. All my plans to end my life could not succeed.
I must say it took a while for me to become normal. It’s been more than 10 years now. Since then I have never thought about suicide.
My life is no longer the same. I now from my experience can say that no medicines can cure suicidal tendencies. No surface level efforts either.
I believe one must have a paradigm shift. One can’t just get over these dangerous tendencies just by thinking or behaving the right way.
Suicide is deeply related to our Soul. It’s a sickness of the Soul.
Unless and until this soul sickness is dealt with, one just can’t overcome it.
One surely can overcome suicidal tendencies with the help of God. Jesus Christ is the answer. God alone can heal this sickness of the Soul.
When the Soul is healed, a person begins to think about living boldly no matter what.
I believe this experience will help a lot of others who go through suicidal tendencies.
Thank you very much for reading.I am glad you read it.
Best wishes,
© Titus Vargis
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