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How do you deal with Loneliness?

I was sick last night. Everyone was asleep. I was shivering. I couldn’t manage with a little medicine.

I realized I needed to take someone’s help. I couldn’t handle the shivering. Still then I changed my mind. I didn’t wake up others. As they all were in deep sleep.

I am like that. I manage most of the time.
This time it was going out of control. I know it’s getting harder.

That day I learnt the important lessons of life and relationships.
Quickly, I found a notebook and wrote this. Later the next day.

The main thing is this: What do we really really need, deep down? Especially in times of struggling and sickness.

What does it take to help someone else who is also traveling on this great journey of life?

Put in place of someone who is lonely, sick, tired, poor, fighting for survival, relationship battles, intense pain.

What will bring solace? Peace? Connection? Significance? Meaning?

Let me share a few things,

1. Being there with the person.

2. Smiling and letting them know he is not alone.

3. Looking at him. Looking into his eyes closely.

4. Showing him that at this time he is the most important person on this planet earth.

5. Less words but more affection and sympathy.

6. Putting your legs in his shoes. Empathy.

7. Reading between the lines.

8. Holding his hands and making him feel special. Touching signifies value.

9. Spend at least 40 minutes with him. Just be there. Your presence is healing to him.

Is it too much?! No. You will be remembered forever. Try it.

Once you are in pain, struggling you will need someone else.

Meanwhile, why can’t you be a light to the ones who are in darkness.

Who knows, you might be the only one who lights up his darkness. Is this silly?!
No!! 10000 times, no.

©Titus vargis.