Relationship
what to do when your relationship is at breaking point?
When life throws a lemon,don’t get bitter but act smart for your own sake.
There are times in our life and relationship that wreck us to the core. What we do about it decides where we end up?
My own life experiences has wrecked me many times. I was almost broke to the point of giving up my life.
No one in my life took interest in my life but escalated my pain.
I had to take decision. I was determined not to give up any more.
Life became my teacher. I tried all my resources and friends to find out what must be done to get out of this narrow place.
Here are few crucial steps that we can take when our relationship is at the breaking point.
Let me start,
1. Take full responsibility if you’re at fault
One important thing is to not act like children. You must be authentic. You need to take full responsibility if you know you are at fault.
2. Extend compassion and care to the person you hurt
Be human. Be compassionate. Learn to extend compassion. You get what you give.
3. Give your partner the opportunity to win your trust back
4. Practice radical transparency
Be absolutely transparent. Don’t play games. Be serious enough. You can’t destroy what you built for many years.
5. Consult with a professional
6. Don’t let your world revolve around your partner
7. Learn to compromise
Life is not always mathematics. Life requires compromises. You can’t be a god on earth. You need to accommodate the other.
8. Spend time with friends outside of your relationship.
Don’t put all eggs in one basket.
9. Engage in affectionate physical contact
10. Use skilled communication
Be careful how you communicate. You might be hurting the other person by the way you talk.
11. Speak from your heart
Listen to your heart. Speak from your heart.
12. Actively listen
Practice listening. Relationships require active listening. Unless we listen,we do a one man show.
13. Healthy conflict resolution strategies
You must find conflict resolution strategies. For that you must learn from the experts. You must do it.
14. Get to the root cause
Find out the root causes of your chaos.
15. Follow your gut feelings
Your gut knows what is best for you.
Dear traveler on the journey called life, let me share something.
You are not your thoughts tell you.
Dear traveler,
I am glad to meet you and say something to you.
I believe we all have different names to comment on our struggles on this journey. But I think that we all have the same struggles.
We might be poor or rich. We might be less confident or more.
We might be from countries that are called developed or not so.
We might be thinking we are alone. We think we are here but no one knows us.
Yet,we can’t blame anyone. We are still warriors. We need someone like a mirror that says so. This is the thing we lack. We have many doomsayers. We have many who discourage us.
Yet we are conquerors. We are not aware. The main secret is this: we must not quit.
Sooner or later,we win. We get to the destination. We are really not alone. It’s our mind that tells us that we are alone. Like our mind being programmed .
Share with someone what you go through. Find someone. No one is perfect. We are still traveling.
It’s our ego that stops us from association. It’s our prejudices. It’s our culture. You know what? If we overcome these,we will win together.
Why not? Ask yourself. Ask the universe. Ask the roads. Here,we are not losers.
Stand up. Walk again. Move a bit if you can’t run.
Don’t stop. Let’s start again. Together. Give me your hand. Hold me and let’s run.
I believe in you. Our destiny calls us. Thank you.
Yours brother,
A traveler.
7 things I hate in my relationship and they frustrate me : what women should not do in a relationship?
Life gets more better as one puts more love.
There are many reasons for my frustrations in life.
They really are numerous but some of them are more recurring.
Let me share a few of them.
I believe these things will help women to realize what frustrates a man in a relationship.
1. Feelings overtaking the sensibility.
2. Inability to understand what makes me angry.
3. Always expecting me to understand her but not taking efforts to understand me.
4. Lack of gratitude
5. Complaining always.
6. Criticizing my character when it should have been my wrong behavior.
7.Childish behavior.
Why relationship end? The ultimate guide.
There are no stars to guide us except our own maturity.
There are many reasons for relationship ending.
Life is painful often but it has to be dealt with wisely.
No relationship is perfect unless we decide that it’s our responsibility to make it happen.
We are what we choose to do. No one can do it all for us. Not even gods.
Why should we not be more mature enough to act like grown up s?
Some of the reasons for relationship failures are,
1. Lack of maturity
Let’s face it, relationship break because of our lack of maturity. We act like we are entitled to what we want at our time. This breaks our relationship.
2. Bad attitude
A bad attitude not only hinders our life but also our relationship.
3. Wrong upbringing
Very often our upbringing determines how we behave with our spouse. It takes hard work and dedication to unlearn wrong things from our behaviour.
4. Feeling of superiority
Very often we act as if we are superior to others. This kills our relationship.
5. Foul language
Saying right things in a wrong way is still wrong.
6. Constant interrogation
If we keep on interrogate our partner it will harm our relationship.
7. Lack of gratitude
This is all about keeping on demanding but not being thankful for good things done by our partner.
8. No place for respect
A relationship without proper respect is a graveyard.
9. Constant comparison
Regular comparison of your spouse with others is a true poison for any relationship.
10. Lack of empathy
Having no empathy is a sure way to kill the relationship.
11. Narcissistic behaviour
Narcissists never achieve anything in life. They are always killing others for their own selfish goals and objectives.
© Titus Vargis
https://loveandmarriagecoach.com
How to increase love in a relationship?
There are different ways to increase love in a relationship. some of them are as follows,
- Commitment
In any relationship,commitment is very important. one must be committed to the relationship.without commitment its impossible to move forward.
02. Transparency
this is also crucial.one must be transparent enough. without it no lasting relationship can take place.
sincerity this gives strength to the relationship.
03. Maturity
This is very important. One must be willing to act as a mature adult. this means willing to act as a grown up.
04. Forgiving
This is important. Forgiveness is the glue of relationship. This is the divine element of a relationship.
05. Communication
This enhances love in a relationship. This makes the relationships alive. Without this relationship is dead.
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