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Ask me more ( the secret question we ask from others but never say)
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What God really really wants?
The monumental question mankind has been struggling with.
The most crucial question in the World is this: what God wants?
The strength of the question is not in the ‘what’ but in GOD.
Humankind has been asking this question from ages.
The man in his search for meaning and significance realised that no one can give him meaning and significance on this planet but GOD.
The question implies that there is a GOD. Our existence demands our significance.
We as a human being are looking for the reasons behind our existence.
The GOD factor helps us to face the uncertainties of this planet.
Gods and the question by Titus Vargis.
We don’t find our meaning and significance in our money or people. People are not the ones we are looking for our monumental question.
We look to GOD for our monumental question. We know that the one who brought us into this planet is GOD himself.
For centuries mankind has founded religions and practices that try to give his soul the answers.
What God wants? How can we answer this question?
We must go through the oceans of the Holy Books and the story tellers.
We have found that God wants our heart,body,money,soul and so on.
But does this confirm our answers?
Are we sure about this?
If God wants bla bla bla bla bla….then why God is still God sitting somewhere and doing nothing…?
The truth that we search for is this,
GOD HAS EVERYTHING. GOD IS LARGER THAN EVERYTHING.
GOD IS SO FULL OF EVERYTHING THAT YOU NEED NOT GIVE HIM ANYTHING.
MOREOVER THE MOST MONUMENTAL TRUTH IS THIS: GOD DID NOT ASK THIS QUESTION.
IT WAS NOT THE QUESTION THAT GOD ASKED. GOD WANTS NOTHING. GOD OWNS THE MILKYWAY AND THE STARS. THE UNIVERSE BELONGS TO HIM.
once you look onto this truth, you are changed forever. God is not looking for something. God cares nothing about what you give to Him.
It’s the so called religion and priests that demand everything in the name of God. So that they get everything in the name of God.
The Power behind the religion is putting up lots of requirements to the people. Unless you put impossible requirements people won’t come to you for help.
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This creates a cycle of exploitation. This way people can be effectively exploited. We see for centuries mankind has been duped.
Even the so called good religions are exploiting in the name of their gods.
Let’s examine these answers. Let’s find the exploitation and demand answers from the so called keepers of gods.
© Titus Vargis
https://loveandmarriagecoach.com
7 things I hate in my relationship and they frustrate me : what women should not do in a relationship?
Life gets more better as one puts more love.
There are many reasons for my frustrations in life.
They really are numerous but some of them are more recurring.
Let me share a few of them.
I believe these things will help women to realize what frustrates a man in a relationship.
1. Feelings overtaking the sensibility.
2. Inability to understand what makes me angry.
3. Always expecting me to understand her but not taking efforts to understand me.
4. Lack of gratitude
5. Complaining always.
6. Criticizing my character when it should have been my wrong behavior.
7.Childish behavior.
Giving up is Okay and 10 other uncommon perspectives on living your life.
Life is an adventure.
1. People are everywhere.You need to learn to interact with them.
2. Problems are part of association. As long as we are here on this planet,we will get hurt some way or the other. Accept this.
3. Learn to deal with the weirdness of the masses.
4. Family is the only shelter available here on this Earth. Treat them with utmost importance.
5. No matter what, learn to ask forgiveness from your family. Accept that you made the mistake if you have made it.
6. Loneliness is the most cruel reality of our life on the planet. Learn to embrace it.
7. Develop some habits. It can be anything that you find joy. Immerse yourself into it. It heals your body and soul.
8. You are a soul with a body. Looking after your soul is more important than your body. Learn to feed your soul.
9. Associate with some humans. Find someone who can accompany you. Find your partner.
10.Giving up is okay. Find something new. Keep seeking. No one can tell you what you must do.
11. Life is an adventure. Learn more and more. Unlearn something that you have learnt in the past which serves nothing.
©Titus Vargis
https://loveandmarriagecoach.com
My confessions: I care about others but I am weak. The paradox of weakness.
I get hurt easily. Don’t know why. I am caring for others.
Yet I wonder about how easily I get hurt. Especially from my close ones.
I am not selfish. I care about my relationship.
I put my whole being into my children. I put my love.
I never listen to even myself when I get a chance to help my relationship.
Still I get touchy very often.
I am not that vocal about my pain.
I am not easily expressive.
I am keeping my feelings to myself.
I am like that.
But I wonder why I am not that strong.
I am weak frankly. And that’s the reason I care.
That’s why I love my relationship even to the point of being exhausted.
I am weak, that’s why I know what it is to get hurt,what it’s to be unloving.
I have seen enough wrecked people. I have seen people so wicked who don’t care about you.
I have seen getting abused. I have heard painful and hurting abusive language spoken against me.
I have seen my father passed even in my younger days.
I have seen poverty. I have seen people hurting you purposely.
I have seen people who left me when I was vulnerable.
Still I did not stop caring. Especially my relationship.
Frankly speaking,I have not received what I give to others. Others don’t always reciprocate.
This hurts me.
I expect others to see my hurt. I expect them not to say that it breaks my heart.
It seems that they don’t care that much.
Hey,still I have not acted like them. This is not a weakness. This is not stupidity. This is divine.
This is the reason as a human being we are not wiped out of this planet. Such people exist.
This makes the difference.
Thank you for taking time. God bless.
Let me know what are your thoughts.
Do share even if it’s little.
©Titus Vargis
https://loveandmarriagecoach.com
TOP MOST BIBLE VERSES ABOUT NOT GIVING UP…EVEN IN THE HARDEST TIMES
Introduction
Hey my friend,giving up is easy. But I don’t want you to give up.
Well,here are few Bible verses about not giving up.
- 2 Chronicles 15:7 But as for you, be strong and do not give up, for your work will be rewarded. I Corinthians 15:58 Therefore, my beloved brothers, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that in the Lord your labor is not in vain
- “But do not forget this one thing, dear friends: With the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day. The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.” – 2 Peter 3:8-9 (NIV)
- “Though he may stumble, he will not fall, for the LORD upholds him with His hand.” – Psalm 37:24 (NIV)
- “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” – Galatians 6:9 (NIV)
- “He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” – Isaiah 40:29-31 (NIV)
- “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” – Isaiah 41:10 (NIV)
Not giving up by any means
- “But do not forget this one thing, dear friends: With the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day. The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.” – 2 Peter 3:8-9 (NIV)
- The Lord Holds Us in His Hands
“Though he may stumble, he will not fall, for the LORD upholds him with His hand.” – Psalm 37:24 (NIV)
- There’s a Harvest for Those Who Don’t Give Up
“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” – Galatians 6:9 (NIV)
- “He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” – Isaiah 40:29-31 (NIV)
- God Is With You
“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” – Isaiah 41:10 (NIV)
This verse reminds us that ultimately God’s plans for us are good, no matter what emotions they make us feel in the moment.
- His Grace Is Sufficient
“But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” – 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 (NIV)
HOW CAN I SAVE MY RELATIONSHIP IN 30 SECONDS?
Here I will show you how can I save my relationship in 30 seconds.
Well its very easy. I will give you exact steps to follow so that you can achieve your goal.
Let me share steps to achieve youe goal,
1.Communicate effectively
communication is essential to achieve success in relationship. one must learn to express oneself in a relationship. it takes efforts to communicate effectively. do your best to communicate with your partner.
2.Commitment
learning to be effective in relationship requires commitment. you must put all your efforts into your relationship. it should not be half hearted efforts.
3.Show appreciation
appreciation is the oxygen for any good relationship. when you see your partner doing some things effectively and sincerely then dont forget to tell them words of appreciation.
4.Show affection
showing affection is key to achieve success in relationship. express love with your partner, this will improve your relationship.
5.Follow forgiveness
love without forgiveness is fake. when you truly love somebody you are going to see them make mistakes. thats part of life. forgiveness plays an important role in any good relationship. when we forgive someone then we get value from that person. we show them that they are valuable to us.
6.Take responsibility
relationship is based on taking our responsibility. when we are committed to taking responsibility our relationship gets better.
7.Empathy
Empathy is essential part of any good relationship.
8.Time for each other
Taking time for each other is very much important.
9.Patience
Let not impatience destroy your relationship.
Why relationship end? The ultimate guide.
There are no stars to guide us except our own maturity.
There are many reasons for relationship ending.
Life is painful often but it has to be dealt with wisely.
No relationship is perfect unless we decide that it’s our responsibility to make it happen.
We are what we choose to do. No one can do it all for us. Not even gods.
Why should we not be more mature enough to act like grown up s?
Some of the reasons for relationship failures are,
1. Lack of maturity
Let’s face it, relationship break because of our lack of maturity. We act like we are entitled to what we want at our time. This breaks our relationship.
2. Bad attitude
A bad attitude not only hinders our life but also our relationship.
3. Wrong upbringing
Very often our upbringing determines how we behave with our spouse. It takes hard work and dedication to unlearn wrong things from our behaviour.
4. Feeling of superiority
Very often we act as if we are superior to others. This kills our relationship.
5. Foul language
Saying right things in a wrong way is still wrong.
6. Constant interrogation
If we keep on interrogate our partner it will harm our relationship.
7. Lack of gratitude
This is all about keeping on demanding but not being thankful for good things done by our partner.
8. No place for respect
A relationship without proper respect is a graveyard.
9. Constant comparison
Regular comparison of your spouse with others is a true poison for any relationship.
10. Lack of empathy
Having no empathy is a sure way to kill the relationship.
11. Narcissistic behaviour
Narcissists never achieve anything in life. They are always killing others for their own selfish goals and objectives.
© Titus Vargis
https://loveandmarriagecoach.com
How to love a man deeply? 16 ways to impact him for sure.
Never ignore the essential mechanism of your man.
There are different love language of men. While women loves to hear ‘I love you’ it’s different for any man.
Let’s quickly find out 16 essential ways to love deeply your man,
1. Walk the talk
Men want to see you love him in your actions.
2. Never ignore him in front of people
3. The best way to a man’s heart is through his stomach
Ask him what he loves to eat and give him often.
4. Appreciate his efforts
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5. Look for things that he does so well.
6. Notice him when he excels.
7. Take his advice and guidance.
Before acting on any decisions,make sure to take his opinion.
8. Listen to him.
Listen with your eyes and ears.
9. Make him feel good about himself.M
Make him feel good by your loving words.
10. Show your love using his love language.
Use his love language rather than yours. This will make him feel loved.
11. Stand with him in disappointment.
12. Accept him for who he is.
Never try to compare him with anyone.
Let him be loved as he is. Let him know you love him as he is already.
13. Address your complaints respectfully.
Take time and relax. When you are calm and in a good mood discuss your concerns.
14. Ask him for major decision making.
Let him know you value his opinions.
15. Respect his boundaries.
16. Don’t question his silence and alone time.
Understand that it’s imperative for a man to take alone times in order to rethink and rewind himself.
How to increase love in a relationship?
There are different ways to increase love in a relationship. some of them are as follows,
- Commitment
In any relationship,commitment is very important. one must be committed to the relationship.without commitment its impossible to move forward.
02. Transparency
this is also crucial.one must be transparent enough. without it no lasting relationship can take place.
sincerity this gives strength to the relationship.
03. Maturity
This is very important. One must be willing to act as a mature adult. this means willing to act as a grown up.
04. Forgiving
This is important. Forgiveness is the glue of relationship. This is the divine element of a relationship.
05. Communication
This enhances love in a relationship. This makes the relationships alive. Without this relationship is dead.
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