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Hey,cheer up! Let me show how I overcame the dark times when my father passed away.

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Life is not a bed of Roses still lot of it depends on how we manage ourselves.



I really can not explain what the relationship I had with my daddy.
It was a relationship built in heaven.No one can come close to my dad.

My black days and years by Titus Vargis.


I lost him suddenly and it left me a world full of unknowns.
O my how would I move an inch without my earthly God? This was my constant thoughts.


I was afraid.I was willing to suicide even tried to jump into the river.But I think God did not allow it to happen.I was though absolute confident about suicide.
I hated life as a whole.


I came to the TRUE colors of my own.
The plasticity of our society.The wicked heart hiding beneath the sober men and women.


I had to learn to live again.It was hell.It was absolute unnecessary I thought.
So,how anyways I stood on my ground again?


1. My mother stood By me.If there was one solid ground that held me it was my mother.She carried me and came to rescue me.I didn’t see her going away when I needed her the most.

My mother was my Angel by Titus vargis.


2. My supreme help came from my heavenly Father. My God in whom I found refuge.To say the least,it was God who literally stood behind me.It was God who gave me boldness.When all else left me it was the presence of God that stood closer to me.This changed my life.

My Heavenly Father my Saviour by Titus Vargis.


3. My hobbies such as listening music and reading kept me away from serious depression. It was music that changed my mood altogether. Then books.
I survived because of reading the biographies of great men.I purposely read great men and their life stories.I knew if they can succeed I too can.

My hobbies were working by Titus Vargis.


4. My brother stood By me all through my dark times.He was there with me.He never left me.I didn’t feel I am lonely. I was supported By him.He financed me when I had no job.No money in my pocket.I truly thank God for him.

My brother my angel by Titus Vargis.


5. My mentors motivated me.I infact got my mentors through books.They were inspirational and a source of power to me.I felt I too can overcome any difficulties. This transformed my life.This gave me hope.This made me an overcomer.
I have survived all because of these.I could not live well when my dad passed away.
I felt it was impossible to live again.Yet I overcame those difficulties.

My mentors were great by Titus Vargis.


You too can overcome your mountains.


Keep trying. Never give up.Find some mentors.Find your own survival tactics.


Life is precious.Life is beautiful.

© Dr.Titus Vargis

10 things that kill your kid’s positivity and what can you do about it now?

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Better parenting by Titus vargis.

Kids are no less than divine. You can kill their positivity unknowingly.

Kids are very fragile and we should know how to handle them.

What kids go through in their life affect their future very much.

Most of the times parents are not careful about how they deal with their kids.

What parents do with their kids have immense impact on their kids. 

Better parenting by Titus Vargis.

Let’s examine what are those things which kill kid’s positivity: 

     01. Constant criticism is the number one poison which kills positivity. Parents who constantly criticise over small things can destroy kid’s self esteem.

    02. Making kids a slave and making them do things forcefully. Kids are slaves when they are required to follow instructions over every things they need to do.This can seriously harm them in their long run.They lose all sense of self worth. 

    03. Abusing kids in behaviour or words.Kids are not stones.They are human beings too.What we as adult feel they feel too. When we abuse them they start abusing themselves. 

    04. Loving kids based on their performance. Kids are often praised or punished as their performance. Kids are not machines.what you think is not possible for them all the times.

    05. Cruel words by parents or family can seriously hamper their positive growth.parents who discipline using harsh and cruel words can discourage their kids.They even can give up and become suicidal. 

    Be an awesome parents by Titus Vargis.

    06. Stop Over pampering. Kids need to be learning uneasy things too.Giving them too much of pampering can make them less confident. 

    07. Violence in any form can literally kill the positivity of your kids.When kids face violence in their homes they can start rebelling. 

    08. Giving them what they ask quickly can hamper their perceptions about reality of life.Kids need to learn that not all things can be obtained as they want.This is life and parents need to teach them.

    09. Taking decisions on behalf of kids can have a negative impact. Let kids take the responsibility and make their own decisions. Ofcourse you can guide them.

    10. Not listening to kids can have a negative impact. They might feel worthless and think that their opinions and matters dont value much.

    Better parenting by Titus vargis.

    PART 02. WHAT CAN YOU DO BETTER AS A PARENT?

    Now let’s see what parents can do to stop being negative to their kids: 

    A. Be careful how you deal with them.They need respect too just as much you do.

    B. Never use harsh words.

    C. Always praise for their small achievements.

    D. Love them more and criticise them less.

    E. Show your full support when they need it from you.Even when they are weak or failing.

    F. Let children know you are on their side.

    G. Stop correcting their behaviour all the time.

    They need freedom and space just as you do.

    Lets see that our kids remain strong as they grow with us.We need to  healthy and confident kids.That must be  the ultimate goal of any parents.

    ©Dr.Titus Verghese,

    (titusvargis.substack.com)

    What if tomorrow Russia might wipe out Ukraine?

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    Sing your song
    What if Russia
    Wipe our Ukraine
    While we sing
    Our favorite list.
    Sing your song
    Save those kids
    Apart from yours
    They might kill
    for a piece of bread!
    Sing your song
    shoe is yours
    legs are mine
    It’s hurting.
    Sing your song
    While we watch
    our daily soap
    and favorite
    football team,
    Russia might
    destroy whole
    bunch of innocent
    cities!
    Stop your songs
    look the devastation
    Arise for the kids
    apart from your’s
    Lest they take
    the guns and
    get license to
    Kill.
    ©Titus Vargis
    divinemedia111@gmail.com

    Hey! We might me so good but still we can unknowingly stand with the criminals!

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    The day we are silent is the day we are wrong in most cases.

    The underlying problem of US by Titus Vargis.

    “When We Keep Quiet” what really can go wrong?

    “When we choose to remain silent on the violence and injustice that is done to the vulnerable, we are indirectly supporting that crime.”


    How often we blame government, presidents,religion or society for the violence and cruelties.


    We blame everyone and we know what we are doing.
    We are 100% sure of our views.
    We seem like little gods on earth.We claim to know all the answers.


    But do we realise that part of the existing problems around us is us?
    Yes,you heard it right.

    We may not be violent,cruel,corrupt,greedy or a thief yet we can be committing serious crimes or promoting them.


    How? By remaining silent.Silent when women are mistreated, children are abused,corruption happening right in front of our eyes,human rights getting violated,cruelty happening all around us.
    Well,when we choose to remain silent we take sides with the person who is committing the crime.


    Lets be loud! Lets speak up! Lets stand up for the ones who cannot for themselves.


    I believe when we do our part,world will surely be a better place to live in.
    If you liked my post,please take time to let me know.
    Thank you for giving me your valuable time.

    ©Titus Vargis.

    Authentic Love and Relationship: How does it look like?

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    There are few real signs to identify the authenticity of love and relationship.

    The signs of true Love by Titus Vargis.


    Love is the most misunderstood word on the planet.I think the most most commonly used word in the world would be LOVE. I strongly believe another set of words that are mostly used would be I, We, Us and Me.


    What is the conclusion I make from these?
    Word ‘Love’ is commonly used when we are not literally meaning it.

    We use it to mean that we like something, or someone based on our likes and biases.

    Not necessarily that others are in our hearts or we are deeply moved by the other.

    You see, we are the most selfish generation of the history of mankind.
    Look at the news or any groups or any so called unselfish people groups who are selflessly doing to mankind much favors.


    First of all, why is that these groups or people promote themselves when they are utterly selfless?! It’s a joke!

    Who in the world is selfless and selfish at the same time?! It’s absurd!


    Well, we live in a time such as this. For us LOVE is equal to SELF. Our motives are clear. We will use any opportunity to gain other’s attention and gains.


    We can even use the words such as LOVE or SELFLESS acts of kindness. While the reality is totally different.
    We fool others and we are deeply perfect in this.

    Our schools or colleges teach us and train us to be utterly selfish and put others down at any cost in the name of the so called SUCCESS.

    What is the conclusion regarding the love we see around. LOVE of ours is superficial and plastic. It fools others. It is used to gain something.

    It is utterly selfish and lacks genuineness. Why is it that we kill each other in the name of religion? Why the educated masses are easily swayed away by fanaticism?!

    Why we say we are civilized and at the same time we are totally corrupt and not willing to sacrifice for the sake of others?


    Love is kind, selfless, sacrifice, forgiving, bearing one another in weaknesses ,and laying down our own Demonic pride.

    Love and the ways to identify the authenticity of love by Titus Vargis.

    Let me share few significant characteristics of such authentic Love and Relationship,


    1.True love is coming out of self. It’s all about others and not us.


    2.It’s concerned more about not my bread or my money but about other’s hunger and sufferings.


    3.It’s about giving,giving and utterly giving.


    4.It’s about making a mark in the lives of those who cannot repay us back by any means.


    5.It’s about our forgiving when grace is not possible.


    6.It’s about showing mercy to the offender the tenth or eleventh time.


    7.It’s about not scoring but about getting unnoticed.


    8.It’s not about marketing or getting famous but making the lives of the other much more better than before.Its simple and profound.

    Let’s decode the thing called Love by Titus Vargis.

    ©Titus vargis,

    titusvargis.substack.com

    Breakup Signs: How To Know When It’s Over

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    Relationships can be intricate, often involving emotional, physical, and intellectual interdependence layers. Recognizing when this harmony dissipates is a crucial step in understanding the status of the relationship. This becomes especially important when a relationship reaches its natural conclusion, a situation filled with uncertainty and ambivalence. This article provides insight into various signs that indicate…

    Breakup Signs: How To Know When It’s Over

    Everything has meaning and everyone is connected,no matter what

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    The underlying causes of our disruptions which we often overlook

    The Matrix by Titus Vargis.

    everything has

    meaning. and a purpose

    we all are awesome!!

    connected and made to

    live connected.

    No matter what.

    a spouse,a child,

    father or mother

    even little ones.

    we were

    hardwired to live

    interconnected.

    what happens to one

    spreads to another.

    might be pain or

    loneliness,

    or disappointments

    ecstasy, enlightenment

    we are spreading

    everything

    that comes to us

    in the form of waves,

    you like it or not.

    we are not perfect

    but we are spreading

    everything that comes

    to us wether love,hatred, jealousy,guilt,

    cruelty,shame,joy

    and happiness.

    we do it always.

    As part of an ocean,

    each waves spreads

    to everyone we live with.

    The pain we feel

    is felt by everyone around,

    all other vice or virtue.

    we hurt and get hurt.

    we smile we are

    smiled upon.

    why don’t we realise sooner?

    loving my neighbour

    is loving myself.

    loving my partner

    is loving myself.

    loving my child

    is loving myself…..

    © Titus vargis.

    5 things I hate in my partner and everyone should avoid these in a Relationship.

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    There can be no sorry for some issues in any relationship.

    There is no excuse my dear by Titus Vargis

    5 things I hate in my marriage, and these can happen in any relationship.

    Well,they must be avoided at any cost to save your relationship.


    01. When I don’t receive back what I give. I always try my best to give love,care, and forgiveness to my partner. Even respect when I feel I have been mistreated.


    02. When I don’t feel that my partner keeps the secrets about me. This frustrates me.


    03. When I find that in matters of money I cannot ask my partner about my needs.when I get answers like it’s my money,why didn’t you keep your money? This turns me off. I strongly believe that as a partner one should help each other in all ways possible.


    04. When I am not consulted regarding some major issues. It can be buying any stuffs or taking a big decision. As a partner one should always first ask one’s partner about their suggestions.


    05. When I am ridiculed in front of others and my partner too joins them. This hurts me the most.

    ©Titus Vargis,PhD

    What keeps you defeated?

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    Sometimes we don’t look around and find what keeps us from being an overcomer.
    We might be looking at bigger things that is keeping us from achieving.
    But it need not be bigger things but smaller things or insignificant things.
    Life has taught me that some of the things that keeps me defeated are:
    1. My thoughts of past hurts and people who have hurt me.
    2. My habit of not forgiving. Many times in order to achieve greater things We must leave aside our past.
    3. My opinion about myself based on my past experiences.
    4. My unrealistic expectations about future.We expect overnight success. But it doesn’t happen like that.
    5. My constant comparison with others. Many times we constantly compare ourselves with others. This keeps us defeated.
    6. Negative self talks. We self talk negatively and keep ourselves in the pit of darkness.
    These things keep us stuck forever in our defeated states.
    We must be kinder to ourselves and treat more lovingly.

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