Hey! We might me so good but still we can unknowingly stand with the criminals!

The day we are silent is the day we are wrong in most cases.

The underlying problem of US by Titus Vargis.

“When We Keep Quiet” what really can go wrong?

“When we choose to remain silent on the violence and injustice that is done to the vulnerable, we are indirectly supporting that crime.”


How often we blame government, presidents,religion or society for the violence and cruelties.


We blame everyone and we know what we are doing.
We are 100% sure of our views.
We seem like little gods on earth.We claim to know all the answers.


But do we realise that part of the existing problems around us is us?
Yes,you heard it right.

We may not be violent,cruel,corrupt,greedy or a thief yet we can be committing serious crimes or promoting them.


How? By remaining silent.Silent when women are mistreated, children are abused,corruption happening right in front of our eyes,human rights getting violated,cruelty happening all around us.
Well,when we choose to remain silent we take sides with the person who is committing the crime.


Lets be loud! Lets speak up! Lets stand up for the ones who cannot for themselves.


I believe when we do our part,world will surely be a better place to live in.
If you liked my post,please take time to let me know.
Thank you for giving me your valuable time.

©Titus Vargis.

Authentic Love and Relationship: How does it look like?

There are few real signs to identify the authenticity of love and relationship.

The signs of true Love by Titus Vargis.


Love is the most misunderstood word on the planet.I think the most most commonly used word in the world would be LOVE. I strongly believe another set of words that are mostly used would be I, We, Us and Me.


What is the conclusion I make from these?
Word ‘Love’ is commonly used when we are not literally meaning it.

We use it to mean that we like something, or someone based on our likes and biases.

Not necessarily that others are in our hearts or we are deeply moved by the other.

You see, we are the most selfish generation of the history of mankind.
Look at the news or any groups or any so called unselfish people groups who are selflessly doing to mankind much favors.


First of all, why is that these groups or people promote themselves when they are utterly selfless?! It’s a joke!

Who in the world is selfless and selfish at the same time?! It’s absurd!


Well, we live in a time such as this. For us LOVE is equal to SELF. Our motives are clear. We will use any opportunity to gain other’s attention and gains.


We can even use the words such as LOVE or SELFLESS acts of kindness. While the reality is totally different.
We fool others and we are deeply perfect in this.

Our schools or colleges teach us and train us to be utterly selfish and put others down at any cost in the name of the so called SUCCESS.

What is the conclusion regarding the love we see around. LOVE of ours is superficial and plastic. It fools others. It is used to gain something.

It is utterly selfish and lacks genuineness. Why is it that we kill each other in the name of religion? Why the educated masses are easily swayed away by fanaticism?!

Why we say we are civilized and at the same time we are totally corrupt and not willing to sacrifice for the sake of others?


Love is kind, selfless, sacrifice, forgiving, bearing one another in weaknesses ,and laying down our own Demonic pride.

Love and the ways to identify the authenticity of love by Titus Vargis.

Let me share few significant characteristics of such authentic Love and Relationship,


1.True love is coming out of self. It’s all about others and not us.


2.It’s concerned more about not my bread or my money but about other’s hunger and sufferings.


3.It’s about giving,giving and utterly giving.


4.It’s about making a mark in the lives of those who cannot repay us back by any means.


5.It’s about our forgiving when grace is not possible.


6.It’s about showing mercy to the offender the tenth or eleventh time.


7.It’s about not scoring but about getting unnoticed.


8.It’s not about marketing or getting famous but making the lives of the other much more better than before.Its simple and profound.

Let’s decode the thing called Love by Titus Vargis.

©Titus vargis,

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Breakup Signs: How To Know When It’s Over

Relationships can be intricate, often involving emotional, physical, and intellectual interdependence layers. Recognizing when this harmony dissipates is a crucial step in understanding the status of the relationship. This becomes especially important when a relationship reaches its natural conclusion, a situation filled with uncertainty and ambivalence. This article provides insight into various signs that indicate…

Breakup Signs: How To Know When It’s Over

Everything has meaning and everyone is connected,no matter what

The underlying causes of our disruptions which we often overlook

The Matrix by Titus Vargis.

everything has

meaning. and a purpose

we all are awesome!!

connected and made to

live connected.

No matter what.

a spouse,a child,

father or mother

even little ones.

we were

hardwired to live

interconnected.

what happens to one

spreads to another.

might be pain or

loneliness,

or disappointments

ecstasy, enlightenment

we are spreading

everything

that comes to us

in the form of waves,

you like it or not.

we are not perfect

but we are spreading

everything that comes

to us wether love,hatred, jealousy,guilt,

cruelty,shame,joy

and happiness.

we do it always.

As part of an ocean,

each waves spreads

to everyone we live with.

The pain we feel

is felt by everyone around,

all other vice or virtue.

we hurt and get hurt.

we smile we are

smiled upon.

why don’t we realise sooner?

loving my neighbour

is loving myself.

loving my partner

is loving myself.

loving my child

is loving myself…..

© Titus vargis.

5 things I hate in my partner and everyone should avoid these in a Relationship.

There can be no sorry for some issues in any relationship.

There is no excuse my dear by Titus Vargis

5 things I hate in my marriage, and these can happen in any relationship.

Well,they must be avoided at any cost to save your relationship.


01. When I don’t receive back what I give. I always try my best to give love,care, and forgiveness to my partner. Even respect when I feel I have been mistreated.


02. When I don’t feel that my partner keeps the secrets about me. This frustrates me.


03. When I find that in matters of money I cannot ask my partner about my needs.when I get answers like it’s my money,why didn’t you keep your money? This turns me off. I strongly believe that as a partner one should help each other in all ways possible.


04. When I am not consulted regarding some major issues. It can be buying any stuffs or taking a big decision. As a partner one should always first ask one’s partner about their suggestions.


05. When I am ridiculed in front of others and my partner too joins them. This hurts me the most.

©Titus Vargis,PhD

What keeps you defeated?

Sometimes we don’t look around and find what keeps us from being an overcomer.
We might be looking at bigger things that is keeping us from achieving.
But it need not be bigger things but smaller things or insignificant things.
Life has taught me that some of the things that keeps me defeated are:
1. My thoughts of past hurts and people who have hurt me.
2. My habit of not forgiving. Many times in order to achieve greater things We must leave aside our past.
3. My opinion about myself based on my past experiences.
4. My unrealistic expectations about future.We expect overnight success. But it doesn’t happen like that.
5. My constant comparison with others. Many times we constantly compare ourselves with others. This keeps us defeated.
6. Negative self talks. We self talk negatively and keep ourselves in the pit of darkness.
These things keep us stuck forever in our defeated states.
We must be kinder to ourselves and treat more lovingly.