Exploring Christianity’s Perspective on Marriage

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How do you discover your life purpose? Some crucial points to find the answer to the puzzle of life.

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The most crucial question by Titus Vargis

How do you discover your life purpose? Some crucial points to find the answer to the puzzle.

Life is meaningful only when you have a purpose.

Let me ask you,do you know the life purpose?

If not then follow me through.

I would like to help you find out the purpose of your life.

Consider these important questions. Don’t just read but take a note book and write the answers sincerely.

By doing so you will find you are desperately looking for.


1. What are your passions?
2. What are your values?
3. What are your strengths?
4. What are your weaknesses?
5. What have been your most significant life experiences?
6. What would you do if you had unlimited resources?
7. What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?
8. What would make you feel like you’re not wasting your time?
9. What makes you feel most alive?
10. What would you do if you only had a year left to live?

Now What?!

Now what by Titus Vargis


Go through your answers and find what’s common in your answers.

Contemplating the following questions can give you some insights on your life purpose.

If you’d like to explore these questions further and gain personalized guidance on your journey of self-discovery, book a call with me today.

Let’s work together to unlock your true potential and create a life that aligns with your authentic purpose.

One of the keys to uncovering your life purpose is to identify what you’re passionate about.

What activities do you enjoy doing?
What gets you excited and energized?


Which are the topics that you enjoy learning about?
When do you feel like you are in your zone, your flow, what are you doing?

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Your best life ahead by Titus Vargis



Your values are the principles and beliefs that guide your life. They’re the things that you hold most dear and that you’re willing to fight for.

Your values are extremely important if you want to live a joyful life aligned with who you really are.

The problem is that most often we take them for granted and we don’t even think about our values when making life choices.
Take some time to reflect on what’s most important to you.

What do you believe in?
What causes or issues matter to you?


Which are the most important values that you hold dear?
Here’s a list values to help you get started:

Truth
Freedom
Integrity
Respect
Connection
Compassion
Kindness
Family
Relationships
Loyalty


Your life purpose is likely to align with your values.

Our life choices need to be in line with our values. Otherwise, we would be making it impossible for ourselves to live a joyful life with a sense of inner peace and fulfillment.






Our life choices need to be in line wit

The power of unconditional love and some examples of unconditional love quotes.

Giving up is easy but never give up
Unconditional love



Love has to be authentic.
Love needs to be unconditional.

To talk about it, it’s very easy. To find such love is really very rare.


It’s quite natural to have some misunderstandings between couples, but it will not break their affection no matter what happens.

To love or to be loved unconditionally is the most precious thing a person can give or can receive from someone.


Select some quotes from below that reflect your feelings and say I love you unconditionally and my love for you is unconditional.



“Find someone who is proud to have you, scared to lose you, fights for you, appreciates you, respects you, cares for you, and loves you unconditionally.”

“If someone wants to be with you, nothing will stop them from doing so. Love doesn’t create excuses.”

“Love is not a temporary feeling or emotion. Emotions and feelings change, sometimes daily. But true unconditional love is everlasting.”

“Unconditional love is loving someone beyond their limits and yours.”

“It is hard to compete with unconditional love.”

“Unconditional love is when someone hurts you, but because you care about that person so much you choose not to hurt them in return.”

“When you start loving unconditionally, you stop judging people soon.”

Think about how your love is. First we need to give unconditional love then only we can expect it from others.

Stop blaming everything in 2023 but make a brutal resolution about your life but how?

Life is an adventure but I don’t know how can I save my life?

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Life is the real gold by Titus Vargis

Relevant information about getting the dream life you wish for:

1. Luck is non existent


2. Belief is the most crucial currency of a blessed life.


3. There are different perspectives about everything in life. Choose the best one.


4. Think about your biases. On which bias are you looking on?


5. We get angry when we are not at peace with our Past.


6. Asking forgiveness makes you divine.


7. It takes fear and love both to get moving in any relationship. Fear has it’s purpose.


8. No one can make you angry without your consent.


9. No one can make you happy without your permission.

©Titus Vargis,

https://loveandmarriagecoach.com

what to do when your relationship is at breaking point?

When life throws a lemon,don’t get bitter but act smart for your own sake.

Life cycle by Titus Vargis.

There are times in our life and relationship that wreck us to the core. What we do about it decides where we end up?

My own life experiences has wrecked me many times. I was almost broke to the point of giving up my life.

No one in my life took interest in my life but escalated my pain.

I had to take decision. I was determined not to give up any more.

Life became my teacher. I tried all my resources and friends to find out what must be done to get out of this narrow place.

Here are few crucial steps that we can take when our relationship is at the breaking point.

Let me start,

1. Take full responsibility if you’re at fault

One important thing is to not act like children. You must be authentic. You need to take full responsibility if you know you are at fault.


2. Extend compassion and care to the person you hurt

Be human. Be compassionate. Learn to extend compassion. You get what you give.

3. Give your partner the opportunity to win your trust back



4. Practice radical transparency

Be absolutely transparent. Don’t play games. Be serious enough. You can’t destroy what you built for many years.



5. Consult with a professional



6. Don’t let your world revolve around your partner



7. Learn to compromise

Life is not always mathematics. Life requires compromises. You can’t be a god on earth. You need to accommodate the other.



8. Spend time with friends outside of your relationship.

Don’t put all eggs in one basket.



9. Engage in affectionate physical contact



10. Use skilled communication

Be careful how you communicate. You might be hurting the other person by the way you talk.



11. Speak from your heart

Listen to your heart. Speak from your heart.



12. Actively listen

Practice listening. Relationships require active listening. Unless we listen,we do a one man show.



13. Healthy conflict resolution strategies

You must find conflict resolution strategies. For that you must learn from the experts. You must do it.



14. Get to the root cause

Find out the root causes of your chaos.



15. Follow your gut feelings

Your gut knows what is best for you.

7 things I hate in my relationship and they frustrate me : what women should not do in a relationship?

Life gets more better as one puts more love.

Giving up is easy but never give up
Not giving up by any means



There are many reasons for my frustrations in life.



They really are numerous but some of them are more recurring.

Let me share a few of them.

I believe these things will help women to realize what frustrates a man in a relationship.

1. Feelings overtaking the sensibility.

2. Inability to understand what makes me angry.

3. Always expecting me to understand her but not taking efforts to understand me.

4. Lack of gratitude

5. Complaining always.

6. Criticizing my character when it should have been my wrong behavior.

7.Childish behavior.

Love and Relationship by Titus Vargis.

HOW CAN I SAVE MY RELATIONSHIP IN 30 SECONDS?

Here I will show you how can I save my relationship in 30 seconds.

How can I save my relationship in 30 seconds
Saving relationship

Well its very easy. I will give you exact steps to follow so that you can achieve your goal.

Let me share steps to achieve youe goal,

1.Communicate effectively

communication is essential to achieve success in relationship. one must learn to express oneself in a relationship. it takes efforts to communicate effectively. do your best to communicate with your partner.

2.Commitment

learning to be effective in relationship requires commitment. you must put all your efforts into your relationship. it should not be half hearted efforts.

3.Show appreciation

appreciation is the oxygen for any good relationship. when you see your partner doing some things effectively and sincerely then dont forget to tell them words of appreciation.

4.Show affection

showing affection is key to achieve success in relationship. express love with your partner, this will improve your relationship.

5.Follow forgiveness

love without forgiveness is fake. when you truly love somebody you are going to see them make mistakes. thats part of life. forgiveness plays an important role in any good relationship. when we forgive someone then we get value from that person. we show them that they are valuable to us.

6.Take responsibility

relationship is based on taking our responsibility. when we are committed to taking responsibility our relationship gets better.

7.Empathy

Empathy is essential part of any good relationship.

8.Time for each other

Taking time for each other is very much important.

9.Patience

Let not impatience destroy your relationship.

Why relationship end? The ultimate guide.

There are no stars to guide us except our own maturity.

No fault in our stars by Titus Vargis.

There are many reasons for relationship ending.

Life is painful often but it has to be dealt with wisely.

No relationship is perfect unless we decide that it’s our responsibility to make it happen.

We are what we choose to do. No one can do it all for us. Not even gods.

Why should we not be more mature enough to act like grown up s?


Some of the reasons for relationship failures are,


1. Lack of maturity

Let’s face it, relationship break because of our lack of maturity. We act like we are entitled to what we want at our time. This breaks our relationship.


2. Bad attitude

A bad attitude not only hinders our life but also our relationship.


3. Wrong upbringing

Very often our upbringing determines how we behave with our spouse. It takes hard work and dedication to unlearn wrong things from our behaviour.


4. Feeling of superiority

Very often we act as if we are superior to others. This kills our relationship.


5. Foul language

Saying right things in a wrong way is still wrong.


6. Constant interrogation

If we keep on interrogate our partner it will harm our relationship.


7. Lack of gratitude

This is all about keeping on demanding but not being thankful for good things done by our partner.


8. No place for respect

A relationship without proper respect is a graveyard.


9. Constant comparison

Regular comparison of your spouse with others is a true poison for any relationship.


10. Lack of empathy

Having no empathy is a sure way to kill the relationship.


11. Narcissistic behaviour

Narcissists never achieve anything in life. They are always killing others for their own selfish goals and objectives.

© Titus Vargis

https://loveandmarriagecoach.com

How to love a man deeply? 16 ways to impact him for sure.

Never ignore the essential mechanism of your man.

Know deeply your man by Titus Vargis.

There are different love language of men. While women loves to hear ‘I love you’ it’s different for any man.

Let’s quickly find out 16 essential ways to love deeply your man,

1. Walk the talk

Men want to see you love him in your actions.


2. Never ignore him in front of people


3. The best way to a man’s heart is through his stomach

Ask him what he loves to eat and give him often.


4. Appreciate his efforts

Love your man by Titus Vargis


5. Look for things that he does so well.


6. Notice him when he excels.


7. Take his advice and guidance.

Before acting on any decisions,make sure to take his opinion.


8. Listen to him.

Listen with your eyes and ears.


9. Make him feel good about himself.M

Make him feel good by your loving words.


10. Show your love using his love language.

Use his love language rather than yours. This will make him feel loved.


11. Stand with him in disappointment.


12. Accept him for who he is.

Never try to compare him with anyone.

Let him be loved as he is. Let him know you love him as he is already.

The message of love by Titus Vargis.


13. Address your complaints respectfully.

Take time and relax. When you are calm and in a good mood discuss your concerns.


14. Ask him for major decision making.

Let him know you value his opinions.


15. Respect his boundaries.


16. Don’t question his silence and alone time.

Understand that it’s imperative for a man to take alone times in order to rethink and rewind himself.

Easier to love by knowledge by Titus Vargis

5 important things as a man I wish I got from my relationship!!

Understanding the heart of a man is essential to meet his real needs.

The essential expectations by Titus Vargis.

Understanding the basics of any good relationship is not easy.

You have to let go of your own idea and ask the other person.

It is the foundation on which any great relationship is being built.

Let me share a few significant needs as a man in my relationship,

01. First Love


This is the thing that moves us. As men we look for that. We want our partners to have that same old spark. We can sense it. We yearn for that. Too often,it is missing.

02. A sense of wonder

As men,we look for a sense of wonder. We want to see that we are still heroes as we were at first sight. How often,we don’t get that. We love to see that we are still the number one in our relationships.

03. Not taken for granted

As men we don’t look for many bigger things. Basically we look for our worth. Are we still worthy or are we taken for granted? Well,we can sense it very easily that we are valued or taken for granted. We love to outperform ourselves but first we want to know that we are valued in our relationships.

04. A sense of gratitude

We look for gratitude. Gratitude in the sense of behavior or attitude. When men are given sufficient gratitude we would like to outperform ourselves. It’s the magic that propels us.

05. Understanding our silence

As men we are not always like women. We go into solitude. We go there to think and plan our lives. We don’t want to be misunderstood. When women respect our solitude we usually are ready to give what we are expected to.

©Titus Vargis
https://loveandmarriagecoach.com

On 5 reasons why I like my relationship in spite of 100 reasons to quit!

There ain’t no heaven on earth frankly speaking.

On why I choose to not quit by Titus Vargis




Well the title itself says it all. We are all sum total of our imperfections and strengths. No one is from above.
We can do two things,either we can look at good things or imperfections in our lives and relationships.

Both views have an immense impact on the quality of our lives and relationships.

Either we will look to good things and focus only on it. Thereby lead a great life. The other option is looking for imperfections and getting doomed.

We actually have no real choice here on earth. We have to embrace the imperfections no matter what.

Well,the choice is up to you and me.
Let me share my five reasons on why I appreciate my relationship,

01. Life is short to keep on looking for perfect relationships. Really you and I can’t keep on moving from one relationship to another. Each of us have immense imperfections. It’s wise to stick to the one who shares your life values and loves you.



02. Loneliness is the most common sickness that leads to death. I don’t want to live alone and get lost in life. I choose to stay in my relationship.



03. We both have different strengths and we both meet the needs of each other. That’s why I stay in my relationship.



04. My relationship gives me a sense of significance. I stay in my relationship because it gives me a meaning in life.



05. I have seen many relationships getting broken around. I don’t want to lose my opportunities in life. I stay and know that life is an adventure filled with lots of happiness and surprises.

©Titus Vargis, PhD
https://loveandmarriagecoach.com

Most crucial facts about your life and relationship

There are no shortcuts to fulfilling life.

We are a postmodern generation. We have all the comforts which the previous generation did not have.

The basics of life by Titus Vargis

We are a generation of no scarcity. 

Everything is available for us at the time we want it. The downside of this abundance is our lack of thinking about others. We seldom think about giving,but getting.

Times we live in by Titus Vargis

As a matter of fact we are the most selfish generation of all time.

It’s difficult for us to understand that giving is the only way for getting things in life.

What are the implementations of this? Let me share some important aspects which will bring drastic transformation in our relationships,

01. We get what we give. Let’s get it right.We get respect by first giving respect. Respect is not demanded. We must learn to give respect to our partner no matter what.

BEGIN THE ADVENTURE WITH US.
Heavenly relationships by Titus Vargis

02. Love is not a product that we can get by money,or power. Love is not dependent on our education or status. We must first give love in order to get it.

03. Just as accidents on roads are part of driving on the road, mistakes are part of being human It’s hard to expect perfection from a being that is bound to make mistakes because we are not robots. Accept mistakes as mistakes. Treat it like an accident. No one drives just to get into any accident. It happens. Unless we treat weakness as an integral part of our existence we would kill each other and harbor grudges.

04. In life 5 plus 5 is not always 10. What I mean is that you cannot expect people to act logically each time. We are also emotional beings. We do things sometimes out of our feelings of fear or anger. We may go wrong sometimes. It happens. Understand that life is not predictable. Things go wrong in spite of our careful calculations.

The game of life by Titus Vargis

05. Every day is a golden opportunity to do something different. No one is chained to act as if life is meaningless. Why not try a different approach? Why not try talking in a fair way? Why not make some other plans if plan A has gone wrong? Life is an adventure. Why don’t we change the patterns that make our relationship dull or boring? 

©Titus Vargis.

https://loveandmarriagecoach.com

51 Power words for raising smart kids.

It takes something more to raise a smart child,what are they?

Power words to use by Titus Vargis.




Kids are spontaneous and they find real happiness in the simple pleasures of life.

They get thrilled and enjoy little things like when they see a small bird, jump over dirty puddles, and even when they get to have their favorite ice creams.

They also like us go through the occasional blues,feel sad and be depressed too.

Power words can instill smart skills in kids to face life smartly.

These power words for kids are a great addition to a child’s vocabulary. These vocabulary words for kids really help them learn how to be encouraging, kind and nurturing.



It creates an encouraging and nurturing environment, which is helpful for their well-being and growth.

Here is a list of Power words for kids to help them build a strong and encouraging vocabulary.


1.Awesome
2.Trustful
3.Confident
4.Leader
5.Passionate
6.Young
7.Motivating
8.Adaptable
9.Endearing
10.Adventurous
11.Free
12.Persuasive
13.Practical
14.Decisive
15.Fan
16.Steady
17.Understanding
18.Successful
19.Accomplished
20.Straight
21.Enterprising
22.Witty
23.Forward
24.Warm
25.Courteous
26.Poetic
27.Happy
28.Brave
29.Consistent
30.Stunning
31.Detailed
32.Focused
33.Particular
34.Fervent
35.Quick
36.Fast
37.Talented
38.Nurturing
39.Distinguished
40.Eager
41.Inventor
42.Honest
43.Fascinating
44.Authentic
45.Proud
46.Balanced
47.Wondrous
48.Brilliant
49.Skilled
50.Special
51.Worthy

Raising a smart child by Titus Vargis.

© Titus Vargis

https://loveandmarriagecoach.com

7 things my relationship breakdown taught me that no coach can teach.

What Life teaches you no one can teach on this planet.

Life as an ultimate relationship coach by Titus Vargis

Over the course of my relationship I had to learn many things.

As with everything else, in order for a relationship to work better I had to relearn and unlearn many many essential things.

Unfortunately,my relationship breakdown brought me to the walls.

I had to change myself and my way of dealing. Some of the important lessons that I learnt are as follows,


01.No one can fulfill you apart from yourself. Fulfilled life happens when you make efforts on yourself. No one can do it for you.


02.You are responsible for your own wellbeing. Others cannot be responsible for your well-being. They can only support you to some extent.

Relationship by choice by Titus Vargis


03.Your partner can’t be your savior by any chance. It’s suicidal to exalt anyone to meet all your needs.
Don’t expect even gods to solve your personal chaos. You must get up and keep yourself straight.

04.Others are not obliged to clean up your mess. You need to act mature and take up the responsibility.


05.It’s not a relationship that brings blessings but your own attitude. Everything depends upon your perspective.


06.What you give will ultimately return to you. This law seems to apply to all things on this planet.

There are no shortcuts by Titus Vargis


07.There is no overnight birth of a beautiful life and relationship. Don’t expect to eat apples overnight when you have not waited for a good amount of time. Nothing happens overnight.

© Titus Vargis

Understanding narcissistic females and 3 very easy ways to deal with them.

You don’t have to be a victim anymore,take control of your life now.

You are not the victim anymore by Titus Vargis.

The fault in our relationship by Titus Vargis


There is a huge rise in abusive females in our world.
It’s not reported by most men out of shame.

Our Society likes to think it’s the female who’s always the weak,so the equation goes like this:

Abusive relationships = men at fault.

The reason behind this equation is that men are stronger than women.

This is the most fallacious misconception. It’s not the truth.
In Fact this is the real culprit. The real cause of marital breakdown.


In any case of reporting to the police,there is bias at work in the system.The police just ignore men and never listen to what men want to say.


Most of the time it won’t be accepted by society that any woman can abuse a man.


This is gross inhuman practice that’s prevalent in many so called developed countries.

Let me put in following points in order to explore these personality:

1) Consider the ads and movies, where it’s common to see women belittling men, even many men are projected there as stupid, foolish.

2) Society, especially narcissistic ones, are training girls and women to abuse men in their lives be it indirectly. The so-called feminist movements add fuel to it.

3) Society as a whole is narrating a different mode of conduct with regards to men.
It’s brainwashing to the point of hating men no matter what.

4) Narcissistic women teach others to refuse to respect any boundaries set by society and men.

There must be a way by Titus Vargis



5) Narcissists play the victim card.
Of course they cry,scream and create drama. They know very well how to influence people a lot so that they will believe in their account.

6) Narcissistic women can’t take any form of constructive feedback.

7) Narcissists lack empathy.
They have no feelings for men! They love a little and hate you at the same time.

8) Narcissists withhold sex to punish men.

9) Narcissists are materialistic.
They will say things like,
you take me out, you give me what I want when I want it.


10.Narcissistic values men based on his financial capabilities.

The blackmail by Titus Vargis




PART B.HOW TO MANAGE A NARCISSISTIC PARTNER?

1.Don’t take the bait.

They are irrational, far from reality. Whatever comes from them is not rational.
Completely ignore them. when they want you to react,just leave the room.

2. When they start to play with your feelings just tell them,

“You are right with your emotions just as I am.”

3.They struggle with their internal chaos and their life shows just the same.
Don’t allow them to dictate your life. Take control of your life.

© Titus Vargis

This is the real thing that wrecks our life and relationships,beware of this!

No one talk about this but this is the real culprit behind our Titanic stories.

Right now,I need this in my life and relationship,I know everyone needs this. Would we be caring enough to do this?
The task no one can say no to but it depends whether we truly understand it’s importance.

The underlying cause by Titus Vargis

The underlying cause by Titus Vargis.


The sad truth is this: we have social connections,enough money and beautiful people in our lives but this is really missing.
Well,in order to live we need three basic necessities: water,food and a home.


But to have an ideal relationship,we need more than these.
We are searching for significance.
Yes,you heard me right.
Deep down of our soul we don’t look for social connections or huge castles but significance.


What’s significance?
It’s a value we get as a human being. To not be treated as a zombie. To be getting respect as an individual,as a homosepians.
We yearn for meaning in life, not 5 star food or star status on the offering.


We look for importance,sense of worth, acceptance more than physical things.
In a relationship,quite often we give everything so easily and we think we have done our best.


Think about this, do you not look for significance? Sense of worth from your relationship?
If we are keen to provide this,other things would not create any issue.
This is the ‘Thing’ that wrecks you and me and everbody.

The Matrix by Titus Vargis


This the it that breaks beautiful relationship.
This is the reason others get hurt and you too when you are treated less than being worthwhile.
Best wishes,
© Titus vargis

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