Life Lessons
TOP MOST BIBLE VERSES ABOUT NOT GIVING UP…EVEN IN THE HARDEST TIMES
Introduction
Hey my friend,giving up is easy. But I don’t want you to give up.
Well,here are few Bible verses about not giving up.
- 2 Chronicles 15:7 But as for you, be strong and do not give up, for your work will be rewarded. I Corinthians 15:58 Therefore, my beloved brothers, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that in the Lord your labor is not in vain
- “But do not forget this one thing, dear friends: With the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day. The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.” – 2 Peter 3:8-9 (NIV)
- “Though he may stumble, he will not fall, for the LORD upholds him with His hand.” – Psalm 37:24 (NIV)
- “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” – Galatians 6:9 (NIV)
- “He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” – Isaiah 40:29-31 (NIV)
- “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” – Isaiah 41:10 (NIV)
Not giving up by any means
- “But do not forget this one thing, dear friends: With the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day. The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.” – 2 Peter 3:8-9 (NIV)
- The Lord Holds Us in His Hands
“Though he may stumble, he will not fall, for the LORD upholds him with His hand.” – Psalm 37:24 (NIV)
- There’s a Harvest for Those Who Don’t Give Up
“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” – Galatians 6:9 (NIV)
- “He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” – Isaiah 40:29-31 (NIV)
- God Is With You
“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” – Isaiah 41:10 (NIV)
This verse reminds us that ultimately God’s plans for us are good, no matter what emotions they make us feel in the moment.
- His Grace Is Sufficient
“But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” – 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 (NIV)
Most crucial facts about your life and relationship
There are no shortcuts to fulfilling life.
We are a postmodern generation. We have all the comforts which the previous generation did not have.
We are a generation of no scarcity.
Everything is available for us at the time we want it. The downside of this abundance is our lack of thinking about others. We seldom think about giving,but getting.
As a matter of fact we are the most selfish generation of all time.
It’s difficult for us to understand that giving is the only way for getting things in life.
What are the implementations of this? Let me share some important aspects which will bring drastic transformation in our relationships,
01. We get what we give. Let’s get it right.We get respect by first giving respect. Respect is not demanded. We must learn to give respect to our partner no matter what.
02. Love is not a product that we can get by money,or power. Love is not dependent on our education or status. We must first give love in order to get it.
03. Just as accidents on roads are part of driving on the road, mistakes are part of being human It’s hard to expect perfection from a being that is bound to make mistakes because we are not robots. Accept mistakes as mistakes. Treat it like an accident. No one drives just to get into any accident. It happens. Unless we treat weakness as an integral part of our existence we would kill each other and harbor grudges.
04. In life 5 plus 5 is not always 10. What I mean is that you cannot expect people to act logically each time. We are also emotional beings. We do things sometimes out of our feelings of fear or anger. We may go wrong sometimes. It happens. Understand that life is not predictable. Things go wrong in spite of our careful calculations.
05. Every day is a golden opportunity to do something different. No one is chained to act as if life is meaningless. Why not try a different approach? Why not try talking in a fair way? Why not make some other plans if plan A has gone wrong? Life is an adventure. Why don’t we change the patterns that make our relationship dull or boring?
©Titus Vargis.
https://loveandmarriagecoach.com
51 Power words for raising smart kids.
It takes something more to raise a smart child,what are they?
Power words to use by Titus Vargis.
Kids are spontaneous and they find real happiness in the simple pleasures of life.
They get thrilled and enjoy little things like when they see a small bird, jump over dirty puddles, and even when they get to have their favorite ice creams.
They also like us go through the occasional blues,feel sad and be depressed too.
Power words can instill smart skills in kids to face life smartly.
These power words for kids are a great addition to a child’s vocabulary. These vocabulary words for kids really help them learn how to be encouraging, kind and nurturing.
It creates an encouraging and nurturing environment, which is helpful for their well-being and growth.
Here is a list of Power words for kids to help them build a strong and encouraging vocabulary.
1.Awesome
2.Trustful
3.Confident
4.Leader
5.Passionate
6.Young
7.Motivating
8.Adaptable
9.Endearing
10.Adventurous
11.Free
12.Persuasive
13.Practical
14.Decisive
15.Fan
16.Steady
17.Understanding
18.Successful
19.Accomplished
20.Straight
21.Enterprising
22.Witty
23.Forward
24.Warm
25.Courteous
26.Poetic
27.Happy
28.Brave
29.Consistent
30.Stunning
31.Detailed
32.Focused
33.Particular
34.Fervent
35.Quick
36.Fast
37.Talented
38.Nurturing
39.Distinguished
40.Eager
41.Inventor
42.Honest
43.Fascinating
44.Authentic
45.Proud
46.Balanced
47.Wondrous
48.Brilliant
49.Skilled
50.Special
51.Worthy
Raising a smart child by Titus Vargis.
© Titus Vargis
https://loveandmarriagecoach.com
Understanding narcissistic females and 3 very easy ways to deal with them.
You don’t have to be a victim anymore,take control of your life now.
You are not the victim anymore by Titus Vargis.
The fault in our relationship by Titus Vargis
There is a huge rise in abusive females in our world.
It’s not reported by most men out of shame.
Our Society likes to think it’s the female who’s always the weak,so the equation goes like this:
Abusive relationships = men at fault.
The reason behind this equation is that men are stronger than women.
This is the most fallacious misconception. It’s not the truth.
In Fact this is the real culprit. The real cause of marital breakdown.
In any case of reporting to the police,there is bias at work in the system.The police just ignore men and never listen to what men want to say.
Most of the time it won’t be accepted by society that any woman can abuse a man.
This is gross inhuman practice that’s prevalent in many so called developed countries.
Let me put in following points in order to explore these personality:
1) Consider the ads and movies, where it’s common to see women belittling men, even many men are projected there as stupid, foolish.
2) Society, especially narcissistic ones, are training girls and women to abuse men in their lives be it indirectly. The so-called feminist movements add fuel to it.
3) Society as a whole is narrating a different mode of conduct with regards to men.
It’s brainwashing to the point of hating men no matter what.
4) Narcissistic women teach others to refuse to respect any boundaries set by society and men.
There must be a way by Titus Vargis
5) Narcissists play the victim card.
Of course they cry,scream and create drama. They know very well how to influence people a lot so that they will believe in their account.
6) Narcissistic women can’t take any form of constructive feedback.
7) Narcissists lack empathy.
They have no feelings for men! They love a little and hate you at the same time.
8) Narcissists withhold sex to punish men.
9) Narcissists are materialistic.
They will say things like,
you take me out, you give me what I want when I want it.
10.Narcissistic values men based on his financial capabilities.
The blackmail by Titus Vargis
PART B.HOW TO MANAGE A NARCISSISTIC PARTNER?
1.Don’t take the bait.
They are irrational, far from reality. Whatever comes from them is not rational.
Completely ignore them. when they want you to react,just leave the room.
2. When they start to play with your feelings just tell them,
“You are right with your emotions just as I am.”
3.They struggle with their internal chaos and their life shows just the same.
Don’t allow them to dictate your life. Take control of your life.
© Titus Vargis
Hey, are you struggling with depression? Let me share how my Suicidal tendencies went Away?
Life is hard sometimes and you can’t lose your precious life but how?
How my Suicidal tendencies went Away?
It’s not easy. It’s monumental.
It’s not a sickness that you take a pill and it goes away.
Let me come to the point,to say it in short.
First things first,
1. Suicidal thoughts are born out of long term sufferings of stress & harsh realities of life.
2. It’s not possible to get out of it by forcing one’s thoughts alone. No one can get out of it like that. It is ridiculous!
No,it does not work that way. You are Outrightly wrong. It’s not a physical sickness just like cough and cold.
3.Suicidal tendencies are out of one’s control. Understand this. No one wants to live like that.It’s a living hell. One can’t escape by himself.
4. Suicidal thoughts can develop over a period of time while being in total failure, death of a loved one, terrible loss in life or business,terminal sickness & sufferings.
5. The person who is affected by it already has done everything to come out of it but he’s helpless. This is the number one truth. He is really really helpless,and that’s the reason he’s thinking of ending his life.
Now,let me share my experience:
Suicidal thoughts were not in me until my father was alive. But once he had passed away I went into a stage of utter despondency.
I was the eldest son and I had a younger brother. We were still studying in schools. My mother had no job. Financially we were struggling.
During this period,I developed abnormal fears, including fear of people,fear of open spaces.
This created total imbalance in our family. This deeply affected my wellbeing.
As an eldest Son, I had the responsibility to look after my mother and brother.
Here I was in utter darkness & I felt I was not living upto my family’s expectations. I was unable to stay normal and earn a living.
I developed serious depression & went to consult the doctor. Doctor prescribed some medicines for me. I wanted to come out of this mess.
Medication really helped me. Previously I could not sleep at night but now I was sleeping well. My fears subsided to an extent and I attempted to start living my normal life once again.
Financially I had nothing to support my family so that I can feel proud about myself. Feelings of worthlessness increased my depression.I felt I was useless. I found no hope.
I developed a whole range of depressive thinking, different fears, and anger.
I attempted suicide many times. I did not see any point in living. I had tried all ways to get rid of depression. Medicines,Yoga, Positive talk, Exercises.
Nothing brought any lasting solution. Staying positive did not help.Nothing worked.Absolutely.
Medicines did not cure my suicidal tendencies. I was fed up with my life. I did not want to live as a burden to others.
Deep down my heart I wanted to live and earn lots of money. It didn’t happen. No one saved me.
My mother was a praying woman. She kept on praying for my recovery. She prayed to Jesus. Her prayers brought my answers. My life began to change.
My plans of suicide did not work. I must say I am alive because of Jesus Christ.
It was all because of my Heavenly Father. He just would not let me commit suicide. All my plans to end my life could not succeed.
I must say it took a while for me to become normal. It’s been more than 10 years now. Since then I have never thought about suicide.
My life is no longer the same. I now from my experience can say that no medicines can cure suicidal tendencies. No surface level efforts either.
I believe one must have a paradigm shift. One can’t just get over these dangerous tendencies just by thinking or behaving the right way.
Suicide is deeply related to our Soul. It’s a sickness of the Soul.
Unless and until this soul sickness is dealt with, one just can’t overcome it.
One surely can overcome suicidal tendencies with the help of God. Jesus Christ is the answer. God alone can heal this sickness of the Soul.
When the Soul is healed, a person begins to think about living boldly no matter what.
I believe this experience will help a lot of others who go through suicidal tendencies.
Thank you very much for reading.I am glad you read it.
Best wishes,
© Titus Vargis
Hey,cheer up! Let me show how I overcame the dark times when my father passed away.
Life is not a bed of Roses still lot of it depends on how we manage ourselves.
I really can not explain what the relationship I had with my daddy.
It was a relationship built in heaven.No one can come close to my dad.
I lost him suddenly and it left me a world full of unknowns.
O my how would I move an inch without my earthly God? This was my constant thoughts.
I was afraid.I was willing to suicide even tried to jump into the river.But I think God did not allow it to happen.I was though absolute confident about suicide.
I hated life as a whole.
I came to the TRUE colors of my own.
The plasticity of our society.The wicked heart hiding beneath the sober men and women.
I had to learn to live again.It was hell.It was absolute unnecessary I thought.
So,how anyways I stood on my ground again?
1. My mother stood By me.If there was one solid ground that held me it was my mother.She carried me and came to rescue me.I didn’t see her going away when I needed her the most.
2. My supreme help came from my heavenly Father. My God in whom I found refuge.To say the least,it was God who literally stood behind me.It was God who gave me boldness.When all else left me it was the presence of God that stood closer to me.This changed my life.
3. My hobbies such as listening music and reading kept me away from serious depression. It was music that changed my mood altogether. Then books.
I survived because of reading the biographies of great men.I purposely read great men and their life stories.I knew if they can succeed I too can.
4. My brother stood By me all through my dark times.He was there with me.He never left me.I didn’t feel I am lonely. I was supported By him.He financed me when I had no job.No money in my pocket.I truly thank God for him.
5. My mentors motivated me.I infact got my mentors through books.They were inspirational and a source of power to me.I felt I too can overcome any difficulties. This transformed my life.This gave me hope.This made me an overcomer.
I have survived all because of these.I could not live well when my dad passed away.
I felt it was impossible to live again.Yet I overcame those difficulties.
You too can overcome your mountains.
Keep trying. Never give up.Find some mentors.Find your own survival tactics.
Life is precious.Life is beautiful.
© Dr.Titus Vargis
10 things that kill your kid’s positivity and what can you do about it now?
Kids are no less than divine. You can kill their positivity unknowingly.
Kids are very fragile and we should know how to handle them.
What kids go through in their life affect their future very much.
Most of the times parents are not careful about how they deal with their kids.
What parents do with their kids have immense impact on their kids.
Let’s examine what are those things which kill kid’s positivity:
01. Constant criticism is the number one poison which kills positivity. Parents who constantly criticise over small things can destroy kid’s self esteem.
02. Making kids a slave and making them do things forcefully. Kids are slaves when they are required to follow instructions over every things they need to do.This can seriously harm them in their long run.They lose all sense of self worth.
03. Abusing kids in behaviour or words.Kids are not stones.They are human beings too.What we as adult feel they feel too. When we abuse them they start abusing themselves.
04. Loving kids based on their performance. Kids are often praised or punished as their performance. Kids are not machines.what you think is not possible for them all the times.
05. Cruel words by parents or family can seriously hamper their positive growth.parents who discipline using harsh and cruel words can discourage their kids.They even can give up and become suicidal.
06. Stop Over pampering. Kids need to be learning uneasy things too.Giving them too much of pampering can make them less confident.
07. Violence in any form can literally kill the positivity of your kids.When kids face violence in their homes they can start rebelling.
08. Giving them what they ask quickly can hamper their perceptions about reality of life.Kids need to learn that not all things can be obtained as they want.This is life and parents need to teach them.
09. Taking decisions on behalf of kids can have a negative impact. Let kids take the responsibility and make their own decisions. Ofcourse you can guide them.
10. Not listening to kids can have a negative impact. They might feel worthless and think that their opinions and matters dont value much.
PART 02. WHAT CAN YOU DO BETTER AS A PARENT?
Now let’s see what parents can do to stop being negative to their kids:
A. Be careful how you deal with them.They need respect too just as much you do.
B. Never use harsh words.
C. Always praise for their small achievements.
D. Love them more and criticise them less.
E. Show your full support when they need it from you.Even when they are weak or failing.
F. Let children know you are on their side.
G. Stop correcting their behaviour all the time.
They need freedom and space just as you do.
Lets see that our kids remain strong as they grow with us.We need to healthy and confident kids.That must be the ultimate goal of any parents.
©Dr.Titus Verghese,
(titusvargis.substack.com)
What if tomorrow Russia might wipe out Ukraine?
Sing your song
What if Russia
Wipe our Ukraine
While we sing
Our favorite list.
Sing your song
Save those kids
Apart from yours
They might kill
for a piece of bread!
Sing your song
shoe is yours
legs are mine
It’s hurting.
Sing your song
While we watch
our daily soap
and favorite
football team,
Russia might
destroy whole
bunch of innocent
cities!
Stop your songs
look the devastation
Arise for the kids
apart from your’s
Lest they take
the guns and
get license to
Kill.
©Titus Vargis
divinemedia111@gmail.com
Hey! We might me so good but still we can unknowingly stand with the criminals!
The day we are silent is the day we are wrong in most cases.
“When We Keep Quiet” what really can go wrong?
“When we choose to remain silent on the violence and injustice that is done to the vulnerable, we are indirectly supporting that crime.”
How often we blame government, presidents,religion or society for the violence and cruelties.
We blame everyone and we know what we are doing.
We are 100% sure of our views.
We seem like little gods on earth.We claim to know all the answers.
But do we realise that part of the existing problems around us is us?
Yes,you heard it right.
We may not be violent,cruel,corrupt,greedy or a thief yet we can be committing serious crimes or promoting them.
How? By remaining silent.Silent when women are mistreated, children are abused,corruption happening right in front of our eyes,human rights getting violated,cruelty happening all around us.
Well,when we choose to remain silent we take sides with the person who is committing the crime.
Lets be loud! Lets speak up! Lets stand up for the ones who cannot for themselves.
I believe when we do our part,world will surely be a better place to live in.
If you liked my post,please take time to let me know.
Thank you for giving me your valuable time.
©Titus Vargis.
Straight from the heart: Never do this in Love or not.
It can literally kill someone you might know.
If you are in love say it.If you really really are in genuine love,go and say it.
Because expressing your love is very okay.
But I have an advice to those who say I love you for the sake of saying it and who want to manipulate others.
I feel playing with other’s feelings is a terrible form of violence.
You might not know how other person feel when they see your true face.
It’s tragic! It’s a crime! I say mother of all tragedies.
If you say I love you and then try to act like it but you have no proof of it,then literally you are stabbing the other person.
It’s a tragedy when someone believes in you and later finds out that you are a liar!People are not toys to play with. When someone gets attracted to you and they hear loving words from you then they really believe you for it.
But to fake love it’s killing the other person.Love is a serious business,and you either make a person or break them.
Never say I love you for the sake of using the person for your own selfish ambition.
Look,what we have done! and where we are heading to
We are the Superpowers….
How we used to,
while we were dreaming,
a dawn of,
Dreamland,fairy tales
sort of,how we used
to brag about,
we will have,
the perfect relationships,
the perfect
AI powered kitchen,
cars,Nuclear weapons,
So on,where
are you now?
What happened to our children,
where did they go?
they have assignments
to do,they are fighting wars,
for the sake of
Supremacy fights,
ego clashes,
Look,how far have come!
We can have famines,
wars anytime we want,
Bio weapons to
hide our weaknesses,
look we are heading to,
mass suicides,
fooling ourselves,
we are nothing more,than animals…
©Titus Vargis,PhD
ARE YOU GOING THROUGH TOUGH TIMES,HERE ARE SOME GREAT NEWS JUST FOR YOU.
Hey don’t be giving up when things are going against you.
Here are some wisdom and inspiration for you as you might be facing rough times in your life or relationship.
1. If you accept tough times are part of the seasons of life, it will keep you from sinking into depression.
2. Maintain a healthy perspective. Going through tough times doesn’t mean you are not blessed, you are actually being prepared for something great. Preparation is often not easy but it is the foundation of better things to come.
3. Tough times will reveal to you your true friends and expose the fake ones.
4. Tough times will introduce to you real friends who are attracted to your purpose.
5. The best ideas tend to be conceptualized in tough times.
6. Sometimes God allows you to go through tough times to wake you up and get your attention especially when you have become too familiar with Him.
7. Sometimes you have to reach a dead end where no one but God can help you, so that no one but God can receive the glory.
8. Great people have learnt the art of converting tough times into a path to being a master of something.
9. There are some lessons that tough times will teach you that good times can’t.
10. Tough times will open your eyes to see opportunities and doors that complacent you did not.
11. Some of us lack the courage to move past our current level and lack the initiative to take the next step on our own, tough times will catapult you to the next stage of your life that you are afraid to take.
12. Tough times will make you naked so that you see yourself for who you truly are. Tough times will force you to be real with yourself, what are you really made of? Because when you are going through tough times, there is no one to impress, you have to be you.
13. Most couples enter their best season after they reach rock bottom. That is when their true love is tested and they emerge stronger together.
May you find strength and wisdom to face your rough times,and may you rise up stronger than ever.
Best wishes.
Everything has meaning and everyone is connected,no matter what
The underlying causes of our disruptions which we often overlook
everything has
meaning. and a purpose
we all are awesome!!
connected and made to
live connected.
No matter what.
a spouse,a child,
father or mother
even little ones.
we were
hardwired to live
interconnected.
what happens to one
spreads to another.
might be pain or
loneliness,
or disappointments
ecstasy, enlightenment
we are spreading
everything
that comes to us
in the form of waves,
you like it or not.
we are not perfect
but we are spreading
everything that comes
to us wether love,hatred, jealousy,guilt,
cruelty,shame,joy
and happiness.
we do it always.
As part of an ocean,
each waves spreads
to everyone we live with.
The pain we feel
is felt by everyone around,
all other vice or virtue.
we hurt and get hurt.
we smile we are
smiled upon.
why don’t we realise sooner?
loving my neighbour
is loving myself.
loving my partner
is loving myself.
loving my child
is loving myself…..
© Titus vargis.
Give dog get dog
The survival book for species called homo sapiens
https://titusvargis.medium.com/give-dog-get-dog-bba904cd647c
What keeps you defeated?
Sometimes we don’t look around and find what keeps us from being an overcomer.
We might be looking at bigger things that is keeping us from achieving.
But it need not be bigger things but smaller things or insignificant things.
Life has taught me that some of the things that keeps me defeated are:
1. My thoughts of past hurts and people who have hurt me.
2. My habit of not forgiving. Many times in order to achieve greater things We must leave aside our past.
3. My opinion about myself based on my past experiences.
4. My unrealistic expectations about future.We expect overnight success. But it doesn’t happen like that.
5. My constant comparison with others. Many times we constantly compare ourselves with others. This keeps us defeated.
6. Negative self talks. We self talk negatively and keep ourselves in the pit of darkness.
These things keep us stuck forever in our defeated states.
We must be kinder to ourselves and treat more lovingly.
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